How to Understand a Taurus Man (9 Vital Tips to Be With Him)

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Are you dating a Taurus man, or thinking of dating one?

It’s critical that you know how to understand a Taurus man:

  • A Taurus man is stoic, sensual, stubborn and practical
  • In many ways he seems like a typical “macho” man, but he’s generally sensitive, peace-loving and passive
  • Change is hard for him—he needs someone with similar morals, world views and routines to mesh well with his personality and life

If a Taurus man feels you don’t understand him, this can be a deal-breaker for him. Often, women don’t even realize that this is what killed their relationships.

If you want to get inside his mind and influence him, we highly recommend starting with a guide like Anna Kovach’s Taurus Man Secrets.

Click the link above now, or jump into our Taurus man 101 guide below.

How to Understand a Taurus Man

1. He’s extremely sensory-oriented

If you’ve ever wondered why a Taurus needs so many pillows to sleep at night or why he’s obsessed with owning luxury items, it’s because he’s sensory-driven.

He processes everything predominantly through a purely physical experience, as opposed to an air sign like a Gemini who will process things mentally.

How something feels, how it tastes and what it smells like are important points to Tauruses.

So if you want to woo a Taurus guy, you should pay attention to how his environment will make him feel physically.

Get candles with relaxing fragrances, dress nicely and cook him some good comfort food for dinner.

Buy him gifts that appeal to his senses of touch, taste, smell, hearing and sight.

You’ll make him a very happy man.

2. He doesn’t commit until he has to

If you’re in a relationship with a Taurus man but he’s dragging his feet, that’s typical.

He takes his sweet time because he can. No one can rush him into making any significant decision. He’d rather cut ties than be forced.

However, that doesn’t mean he will never commit.

On the contrary, he prefers a committed, long-term relationship. But he needs to have significant motivation to pull that trigger first.

As we talk about in How to Get a Taurus Man to Commit, it’s important to set your boundaries firmly while not dictating to him or demanding anything from him.

You’re simply reinforcing your standards.

And truth be told, a Taurus man likes a woman with higher standards. It means to him that she’s worth the wait.

3. It’s hard to change his mind

As a stubborn fixed sign, you’ll find yourself hitting your head against a wall if you think you can talk a Taurus into something.

Change, for a Taurus, takes time…a lot of time.

For a change to happen, especially a change that you want, he’ll need to frame it in a way where he still has the control. 

Where it was his idea.

(In case you’re curious, Anna Kovach explains how to do this in Taurus Man Secrets.)

If you want any shot at convincing your Taurus man, you must swallow your pride. 

Don’t just tell him he’s wrong or that your way is better.

Try to keep the situation emotion-free and provide calm, casual facts and logic in a non-confrontational way.

Then wait, because it’s going to be a while.

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4. He trusts what he can see

Highly practical, a Taurus man puts his faith in what he can see and interact with.

He’s not one for the purely theoretical.

If you translate this to how he is in your interactions with him, you can bet that he values your actions over your words.

What you do provides proof to him and who you are. 

What you say is nice, but if you don’t act it out, then the Taurus man will not be convinced of whatever you say in the future.

This is partly why it takes so long to earn a Taurus man’s trust, and why he puts you through so many tests. 

He has to see evidence (and enough of it) that he should put his faith in you first.

So think physical displays of your affection for him, following through on what you promise and ensuring that everything you do in your personal life aligns with what you tell him.

5. He’s a creature of habit

Tauruses like to know what they’re doing today, tomorrow and the next day.

In a relationship, Taurus men need to feel secure in being able to predict your routines.

And of course, make you part of theirs.

If you think it’s boring having a glass of red wine at 7 p.m. every night and dinner at 8, you don’t want to be with a Taurus.

If, however, you like developing these types of habits and sharing them with your significant other, you’ll be very happy with a Taurus man.

In case you’re the more adventurous sort, you can get a Taurus man to compromise here and there, but he’ll always go back to his comfortable ways.

Best advice is to enjoy the mellow evenings with him…most nights.

6. He doesn’t talk about his emotions much

Do you get tired of your Taurus being tight-lipped when it comes to expressing his feelings?

Sister, you’re not alone.

But no matter how much we wish Taurus men would just come out and say how they feel about us, we should also understand that Tauruses are just not like that.

When they do talk about their emotions, they tend to keep it brief. Like a quick airing of what they need to get out, then it’s over and done.

In general, they’re pretty emotionally even. Unless they’re in a bad situation, they don’t really experience big highs and lows like, say, a Pisces does.

To a Taurus man, he has so much else on his plate to focus on.

We actually have a guide on how to emotionally connect with a Taurus man if it’s something you want to look into further.

But don’t take it to heart if you’re not hearing a Taurus guy profess his love.

Look to the way he acts with you to confirm his feelings for you. 

And if he’s going through a hard time, let him do what he needs to do and just be there for him if he ever wants to vent.

7. He lives by his morals

If you want to be with a Taurus man, you should understand that he won’t compromise his morals for anyone.

His sense of self is strongly rooted in his personal morals.

More often than not, Tauruses are guided by principles like no lying, cheating and stealing.

Now, they do have a “live and let live” philosophy. They won’t get involved in most people’s affairs or try to judge them for their flaws.

However, Tauruses expect a lot from those those closest to them and can be disappointed when a good friend or partner does something they find “unethical.”

So if you’re with a Taurus man, you must live up to these standards at all times.

He highly respects someone who stays true to their own morals, but he likes it even better when they share his.

8. He’s the quiet leader in the relationship

Taurus men are quite easy to get along with in general.

Though they’re not flexible, they don’t go running around trying to force their views and their ways of doing things on others.

However, Taurus men also view themselves as masters of their own fates.

They won’t be told what to do by anyone who they don’t see as having the authority to do so.

As it happens, in relationships, that includes their partners.

A Taurus man automatically assumes the leadership role. 

He wants his significant other to be supportive and receptive. But that doesn’t mean he wants control of every little thing.

It’s important to a Taurus man to be at the helm when making big decisions that affect his career, time and money significantly.

Not when deciding what color sheets to buy for your bed if you live together.

If you give him the room to feel secure and in control when he needs to be, you’ll avoid a lot of heartache and find more compromise than you would any other way.

9. He’s reactive and passive

As manly—and even macho—as the Taurus male is, he belongs to a feminine sign.

This makes him more reactive, preferring to wait and respond to you instead of jumping into action.

When upset, Taurus guys tend to become passive-aggressive. They’ll shut down and give you the cold shoulder rather than confront something head-on.

However, you should not try to force him to make a move he’s not ready to make or talk when he’s not ready to talk.

It will just push him away and make him close off more.

If he’s upset, you definitely want to let him have his space. He can stay cool and calm right up until he reaches a certain point, after which his temper explodes.

He is the Bull, after all.

But it usually takes a lot to get there, particularly when someone isn’t leaving him alone and giving him the space he needs.

Other Taurus Man Questions

How do you know if a Taurus man is serious about you?

You’ll see changes in your relationship that let you into his inner life.

He’ll begin to open up to you, be vulnerable with you and start planning a future with you.

You may also see “negative” things like jealousy and the dreaded hot-and-cold Taurus man behaviors while he wrestles with his feelings for you.

But it’s all part of his process of feeling secure with you.

Read more in How Do You Know When a Taurus Man Loves You?

How do you keep a Taurus man interested?

Keep up your well-groomed appearance.

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Continue providing him with steady romance and affection—playing hard to get and withholding will not work on a Taurus man.

One of the most important things you can do is to stay consistent.

Give him a drama-free courtship and make him feel like he’s the only man getting your attention.

You want to be trustworthy and make him feel good to keep him hooked.

We dive more into this in How to Keep a Taurus Man Interested.

How does a Taurus man test a woman?

A Taurus man can act in very confusing ways when what he’s really doing is measuring your compatibility.

If a Taurus man is courting you, he might drop off communication suddenly in an attempt to push you to contact him.

This proves your interest in him and allows him to keep pursuing you.

But he’ll keep testing you throughout your relationship, revealing your trustworthiness and loyalty.

If you want to know more, we explain eight common tests in How Does a Taurus Man Test a Woman?

How to emotionally connect with a Taurus man

The best way to connect with a Taurus man is to do it in person.

Avoid trying to do it over text. 

Phone calls are better, but in person is best as a Taurus man feels most connected to you through touching, holding you and experiencing you through his senses.

If you do want to talk about feelings, try not to make it heavy as it can intimidate him.

Comfort is key for him, as we explain in How to Emotionally Connect With a Taurus Man.

How to handle a Taurus man

To put it short and sweet, handling a Taurus man requires a balance between maintaining your independence and letting him call the shots.

He wants to be in charge, but he can only be with a woman who is equally strong, ambitious and in control of her own life.

You should be flexible enough to get around his stubborn streak, but you should also set boundaries. 

I promise, he will respect them—any man worth your time will.

Remember, he’s slow to act so you’ll need to exercise a lot of patience and acceptance with him.

Read our full guide in How to Handle a Taurus Man.

What a Taurus man wants to hear

What a Taurus man wants to hear is what you really think.

He’s pretty good at detecting falsehoods and fakery. He wants to know that you’re always being real and genuine with him.

To make him feel confident in your relationship, you should emphasize your stability, financial security and maturity.

This will help to make him feel more certain about you—as long as you’re always keeping it real.

If you’re ready to understand Taurus men on a deeper level, check out Taurus Man Secrets.

Do you find yourself asking why a Taurus man is so confusing? Why he dodges your calls? What you have to do to get him to commit or marry you?

Anna Kovach provides a ton of useful tips and advice to get what you want while making both you and your Taurus man happy.

Check out Taurus Man Secrets here.

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