How to Handle a Taurus Man (10 Dating Rules Not to Break)

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You’re dating a Taurus guy and you need a little help on this mysterious man.

Here’s how to handle a Taurus man:

  • Let the Taurus man lead, but don’t lose your independence
  • Set your boundaries and stick to them—the Taurus man will respect you for it
  • Know how to tame his less desirable qualities, like his possessiveness and stubbornness

Not sure how to handle the Taurus man’s “bad” side so it doesn’t destroy your relationship? I can’t stress enough the importance of learning his psychology.

A great place to start is Relationship Astrologer Anna Kovach’s in-depth guide Taurus Man Secrets.

Click the link above for the guide now, or see what it takes to date the Bull below.

What Does Taurus Man Want in a Relationship?

A Taurus man desires a relationship where he can play a traditional masculine role.

In this relationship, he does the chasing, the courting and the leading. Ideally, his partner will yield to him and let him be in charge.

Though she’ll need to be careful he doesn’t see her as a pushover, or he’ll lose his interest.

Deep down, all Taurus men want someone to take care of them.

This is also where traditional roles come into play.

If you’re willing to cook for him, show him plenty of physical affection, listen and support him, he’ll consider you a contender for his best match.

But he’ll also demand your undying loyalty and honesty. Which sounds reasonable.

However, you must also understand the Taurus man’s darker traits—jealousy, stubbornness and fear of commitment.

If you know how to handle the good and the bad, you’ll have a deeply romantic and fulfilling relationship with a man who would jump in front of a moving car to protect you.

Read next: What a Taurus Man Wants in a Relationship

How to Handle a Taurus Man

1. Let him choose

As the leader in the relationship, the Taurus man will want to make seemingly small but meaningful choices for the two of you.

Like where you’ll go on a date, what time he’ll pick you up and what wine to get with dinner.

He’ll do this particularly in the beginning of dating to impress you.

This is an easy way of indulging him—simply let him.

He wants to feel like the man. For him, that means showing you a good time, winning you over and guiding you in a fantastic evening out.

2. Give him control

Control of his life and his decisions is first and foremost in the Taurus man’s brain.

For bigger decisions, like when to commit, let him decide.

This is really important!

Otherwise, you risk him backing off and reconsidering because he feels you’re on two different wavelengths.

In general, it’s not as if you can’t make your own decisions.

You can—just be aware that your decisions for yourself do not necessarily sway the Taurus man.

He’ll need to make up his own mind in the end, without feeling pressure from you.

3. Live your life

While you’re dating a Taurean, it’s crucial that you keep separation between your lives and schedules.

You should live your life while he lives his life and enjoy each other’s company when you can.

Ultimately, the Taurus man wants to chase you and have something to long for.

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Something to work hard for.

If you give your life up for him, try to merge too early or become like a wife to him, he’ll likely take you for granted.

As he’s getting all the benefits upfront, he won’t have any reason to progress your relationship.

4. Pamper him

What a Taurus man really likes from a woman he’s dating is TLC.

He gives special treatment, but he also wants it in return.

Go ahead, baby him a little.

Feed him good food.

Run a bath with relaxing bath bombs and invite him to soak with you while you rub his neck and back.

Show him special attention when you’re together.

This type of pampering is calming, loving and nurturing to him—and will make him putty in your hands.

5. Don’t get angry about his possessiveness

Fish swim. Birds fly. Tauruses get insanely possessive.

It may happen when you come home after being out with friends and he asks you who you were with—any guys?

Or it could be after seeing you get some male attention out on a date.

The trick is to not react with anger or get defensive.

Your best bet is to soothe him by looking him in the eye, being very sincere and letting him know that he’s the only one for you.

Cut off any guys flirting with you. Don’t even give them the time of day.

By explaining calmly to the Taurus, reassuring him of your dedication and showing that you’re not interested in anyone else, you’ll avoid some major confrontations, trust issues and heartache.

If you need more help, read Anna Kovach’s advice on taming the raging Bull’s possessiveness without breaking your relationship in Taurus Man Secrets.

6. Give him time and space

If any guy will take as much time and space as he wants regardless of what you want, it’s a Taurus.

He’ll go as slow as he likes.

And he will disappear from time to time while he gets absorbed in work or his own responsibilities.

The question he’ll ask is, how will you handle it?

Will you give him that room freely, or will you nag him or cling to him?

Let him see that you won’t be overly demanding and you trust him to do what he needs to do, his way.

After a while, he’ll willingly decrease that distance and, little by little, let you in.

7. Keep it consistent

Tauruses don’t like things to change.

They need stability and consistency in their routines, their lives and their relationships.

A Taurus may be able to handle a certain amount of spontaneous adventure, like going away last-minute for the weekend. (As long as next weekend is back to basics.)

But don’t ask him to give up Wednesday night poker with his buddies.

Or make a shift in his career if he’s comfortable where he is, even to get a promotion.

Too much change and spontaneity, and you’ll end up with a cranky Bull on your hands.

8. Set your boundaries

What are you willing to tolerate when dating your Taurus?

Think now, because he’s going to get used to the way things are with you quickly.

If you jump into the sexual side of your relationship, you run the risk of the Taurus man labeling you as a friend with benefits or a casual relationship unless you create some rules.

In this instance, boundaries should include no late night booty calls. If he calls you, it’s got to be to spend time together or take you on a date.

Whatever your lines are, make them clear and reinforce them.

If the Taurus guy pushes them a bit to see how you’ll react (and he likely will), stand firm.

He’ll respect your consistency, and if he cares for you, he’ll accommodate you on what you’re demanding.

9. Use rational statements

Want to win an argument with a Taurus man?

Avoid telling him he’s wrong.

Even if he is wrong, a Taurus man will deny it or try to slap some blame on you as a diversion tactic just to win.

As a passive-aggressive type, he’ll then freeze you out with his cold shoulder. 

The best way to handle a Taurus man is to realize you won’t “win” upfront.

But you can plant a seed in his mind by using calm, rational statements and trying to make things sound common sense to him.

Then leave him alone and let him have the last word if he needs to.

Keeping the peace and taking emotion out of it are the only strategies that lead to resolution.

10. Respect his privacy

A Taurus man is one of the most confusing in the zodiac to date.

Much of this has to do with the fact that he’s an intensely private person.

He doesn’t talk about his feelings much, and he tends to think things over for long periods of time instead of talking them out.

Even with his significant other.

As he grows to trust you and gets more comfortable with you, and especially as he starts to trust that you’ll be together for a long time to come, he’ll open up more.

In the meantime, avoid prying. That makes him suspicious and he’ll pull away from you.

Simply offer him support.

Be there for him and be a good listener. He’ll love you for that.

Other Taurus Man Questions

What does a Taurus need to hear?

A Taurus man is listening carefully for signals that you’re the mate he’s looking for.

He wants to hear things like you’re mature, responsible with money and you have the capacity to understand him.

He also wants to hear that you’re in a place to handle a relationship with him right now.

That is, you’re stable, open and not looking at anyone else.

Read more in What a Taurus Man Wants to Hear.

What should you not say to a Taurus man?

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You want to be careful when it comes to criticizing a Taurus man.

Things that give him comfort, like his love of routine and staying at home versus trekking out on a Friday night, for example.

He can’t help what he likes, and he’d rather not be teased for it.

Also best to avoid calling out his stubbornness. Tauruses are well aware, but they’ll take them as fighting words.

And never tell him he’s wrong flat out!

Here’s what to say to a Taurus man.

How do you drive a Taurus man crazy?

With a Taurus man, you want to drive him crazy through his senses.

Being able to see, touch and smell you creates an intoxicating experience for him.

So put on your best-smelling perfume.

Wear something pretty, feminine, soft and touchable.

Give the Taurus man playful touches and squeezes on the arm.

Make yourself irresistible to his physical senses, and you’ve easily got a Taurus man drooling over you.

How do you get a Taurus man to chase you?

First of all, you have to get him to notice that you’re into him.

Give him signals that you want to be chased.

Show him special attention when you’re with him, make lots of eye contact and smile.

Compliment him and make it obvious that you think he’s interesting.

If you’re not hearing from him, send him an initial text to open the door.

Read more in How to Get a Taurus Man to Chase You.

How to emotionally connect with a Taurus man

A sensual Taurus man connects with you by the physical experience of being with you, in person.

Touch is important, so cuddling up and touching each other affectionately mean much more to him than physical comfort.

Emotions scare him a little, so if you’re going to talk about them, make sure to ease into it with light conversation.

Better yet, let him determine when to open up about his feelings.

Here’s how to emotionally connect with a Taurus man.

Taurus man testing you?

If you’re dating a Taurus man, he’s already been testing you.

A Taurus man tests a woman by asking her specific questions to see what kind of person she is and if he can trust her.

He’ll do things like disappear or delay responding to your text just to find out what you’ll do—do you want him badly enough to text again?

Not everything is a test with a Taurus man, but one thing is true.

He’s always watching your reactions and logging them away to add up to a bigger picture.

If you want to know what he’s looking for and how to ace his strangest tests, check out Anna Kovach’s guide Taurus Man Secrets.

Anna herself married a Taurus, so she knows what she’s talking about.

Click here for Taurus Man Secrets.

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