Though the Taurus man is no Sagittarius-level commitment-phobe, he can drag his feet. How to get a Taurus man to commit? Show him you’re it. Period.
How to Get a Taurus Man to Commit
For those who are head over heels with a Taurus guy, it’s good to keep in mind that in the end, the Bull is driven by some fairly simple needs.
But if you’re not supplying them, you can probably bet that he’s going to dig his hooves into the ground and stop this love train from going any further.
Meanwhile, if all seems to be going smoothly but he’s just not locking it down for some reason, make sure he really sees the whole you and all your amazing qualities.
But if you’re wondering what he’s looking for specifically, here are a few key things…
Side note: For a comprehensive guide on navigating a successful relationship with the male Bull, see Taurus Man Secrets.
1. Show your independence
It’s true that if you’re with a Taurus man, he delights in fulfilling a certain caretaker role. That is, he wants to feel like he’s looking after you in a pretty traditional sense.
But that doesn’t mean that he wants you to be helpless. He does expect that the woman he devotes himself to can stand on her own two feet without him.
Make sure you love him, but you’re perfectly capable of doing things without him. Make plans that don’t involve him once in a while. Remember that you’re still an individual in your partnership and that you’re capable of handling challenges like a boss even if he tries to swoop in and resolve them for you from time to time.
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2. Be patient
I want to make this really clear: There is **nuh-thing** you can do to push a Taurus.
Influence, OK. But try to force a direction, you’re going to meet the immovable object. This sign’s stubbornness is not to be tested.
If you just give him room to breathe and arrive at the decision that you’re the only one he’ll ever want to wake up next to for the rest of his life at his own pace, you’re in a much better position to get what you want. He’s very careful about who he chooses for a life mate, and he wants to be 100% sure he knows you before he selects you.
Now that doesn’t mean you need to be a doormat. If he seems like he’s getting distant, just ask. He’ll probably tell you how he feels in the relationship.
3. Have your sh*t together
It’s time to step into your adult life and build some credit if you don’t have any, set some goals for your future and generally have a handle on your life.
Taurus wants a stable partner, and this is one major way he determines whether that’s you. But it’s not necessarily about how timely you are with paying your bills—it’s often about whether you know what you want in terms of your career path, creative pursuits or even retirement down the line.
Don’t worry if you’re not Type A personality-ing each aspect of your waking life. He’s probably not expecting that. He just looking for stability.
4. Make sure your goals are aligned
A Taurus friend of mine knew he wanted kids early in life, like in his teenage years. Before he settled down with his wife, I saw relationships fizzle out pretty quickly.
One didn’t last long because of two strikes: In his words, she seemed like she didn’t know what she wanted out of life (see above), and she wasn’t interested in children. That was enough for him to know pretty immediately that it wasn’t going to work out. So he abruptly broke it off with her.
I think a big lesson to take away from this is that Taurus doesn’t really have much interest in changing your mind about the things that he cannot compromise on. He’ll respect your wishes, but if he thinks you’re on different paths, he’ll take it as a sign.
If you discover that you two have big differences in your long-term goals (whether family related or not), that doesn’t mean that you should change yours. If it’s early in the relationship, try asking him what he wants to see how matched your expectations are.
5. Be his rock
If your Taurus can come to you no matter what and have your support, that’s no small thing for him.
Granted, you may not see him in fits of emotion too frequently since this is not known to be an emotionally turbulent sign. But he’ll absolutely want someone he can talk to. Someone he can tell anything to and who will listen to him with sincerity.
This is an incredibly loyal man, and he wants his loyalty reciprocated. If he feels that he can always rely on you, things are going in the right direction.
Remember, s-t-a-b-i-l-i-t-y is what he’s all about.
6. Make your home a haven
Don’t underestimate the power of a Taurus’s environment. Even if your Taurus man lives in an utter bachelor pad with nothing but Scarface posters and a souped-up entertainment system, he’s going to love that you put time and attention into making your own living space comfy, cozy and attractive.
Let me tell you something about the Taurus guy I mentioned earlier (OK, I know more than one Taurus, but he’s such a good example).
When he was a bachelor, his apartment was kind of a wasteland. It had ancient, grime-stained carpeting, it was NEVER clean and all he really had was a couch and his (high-tech) video game system. BUT, he slept on a double mattress with a feather-top foam layer for extra softness. I hope I’m making my point here.
Even if it looks like he doesn’t care for stuff like soft, fuzzy blankets and nice-smelling scent diffusers, don’t be fooled. He loves sensory stuff. (My Taurus pal’s wife has since filled their home with plenty of this stuff.)
Go ahead and make your place a palace of sensory pleasure if you want to go the extra mile. Put out the throw pillows. Make your famous baked mac and cheese when he comes over. He’ll never want to leave.
7. Don’t play games
You know, some signs are kind of into the dating games people play. But Taurus isn’t.
Be straightforward if you want to win his heart and his utter commitment. This kind of goes along with being his rock.
Earn his trust and he’ll be in.
8. Set your limits
As much as your Taurus man wants to be in control of when and how relationship commitment takes place, he’s prone to taking advantage in situations where a woman doesn’t set boundaries.
What do I mean by that? Simply that Taurus guys need clear signals within your relationship of what you want, what you don’t want, what you’re willing to tolerate and what you’re not.
Otherwise, they will make assumptions based on what they see.
Are you always at a Taurus man’s beck and call? Do you conform your life to his just to see him? In that case, he’ll have no specific reason to change anything that he does for you.
Likewise, if you don’t create your own personal rules for the relationship you’re in—how you want your partner to treat you—you can’t expect a Taurus man to fulfill your desires.
Be patient, but be firm. Your Taurus man will respect the boundaries you set. And if he were ever willing to commit to you, this is the action that will prompt him to get his butt into gear.
Note—we’re not talking ultimatums! Those rub him the wrong way and don’t help your case any. Instead, you have to let him know, for example, that if he wants to see you, it’ll be on a date. Not a casual hangout or booty call.
Set your terms without being pushy!
Putting It All Together
By no means is this an exhaustive list of how to get a Taurus man to commit, but these are things that tend to be important to Tauruses. He treasures honesty, loyalty, independence and stability.
Don’t worry if you feel like you’re struggling to woo him. Tauruses can usually see through it if you’re presenting a facade that’s not the real you, even if it’s just because you’re trying to make a good impression.
Be yourself. Relax.
Remember, no Taurus—or human being, for that matter—is exactly the same, so listen for what your Taurus man says that he wants. Use your intuition!
You can get close up and personal with the Taurus man commitment subject with the go-to astrological guide Taurus Man Secrets.