Scorpio is the sign of emotional intensity and obsession, but how to make a Scorpio man obsessed with you?
- Make him chase you
- Let him catch glimmers of your inner depth
- Get the passion going between the sheets
- Let him think he’s got more to lose if you slip through his fingers
Because a Scorpio man’s obsession can fade out of seemingly nowhere, we highly recommend learning how his mind works with an in-depth guide like Relationship Astrologer Anna Kovach’s Scorpio Man Secrets.
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How to Make a Scorpio Man Obsessed With You
Radiate simmering sexuality
For Scorpio men, sexiness doesn’t all happen on the surface.
You can dress any way you want and still not get a Scorpio man’s attention if you don’t have it.
For one thing, Scorpios are addicted to confident women who don’t ask for others’ approval.
But there’s also a rawness about a woman a Scorpio finds sexy.
It’s not manicured. It’s more about being genuine. Real and unedited.
Make sure you tune into your attraction to your Scorpio, for a start.
Tune into your feelings.
Stop trying to perform sexy and focus on your own inner sensuality.
That will get him to respond.
Read next: How to Text a Scorpio Man
Be just out of his reach
Throw yourself in a Scorpio man’s path and he’ll surely step over you.
No matter how attractive he once found you.
The important thing to know is that Scorpio men are highly covetous of that which they can’t get very easily.
They like to work for your affection.
To allow the Scorpion to do this, you should maintain enough distance that you’re not incredibly easy to reach any time he wants.
Keep your life your own and don’t give in to the Scorpio man’s every whim when he wants to see you.
All the while, send him texts that give him little bits of your time and very real affection here and there.
Be encouraging, but do let him chase after you.
Hold your own
Scorpios can easily dominate an encounter.
They’re intense people who are smart, savvy and always one step ahead of you.
Because of that last part, it can be hard to impress a Scorpio man.
What you’ll need to do is not let him intimidate you.
State your opinions and tell him your honest thoughts, even if you fear judgment.
Remember that confidence is sexy to the Scorpio male.
If you can show him that you’re an equal, he’ll see you as a greater challenge and one that is well worthwhile.
Show your depth
In every way.
Emotionally, intellectually, spiritually.
Scorpio men are not after a pretty face per se.
They become obsessed with women who are as deep as the ocean and just as mysterious.
Hint at your emotional depth by giving a Scorpio man small, brief insights into your world but leave it at that as to not overshare and dampen the mystery.
Have conversations where you can show your inquisitiveness and imagination.
Discuss topics of weight and meaning rather than shallow ones.
And avoid small talk!
Don’t ignore him
Though you want to keep him chasing you, you never want to simply ignore a Scorpio man.
If you do this, he will think you’re playing a game.
And if it’s a game, he will make sure he wins.
Scorpios are extremely sensitive to manipulation and cut it out where they sense it.
Which can be tough because you always have to tread carefully as you learn more about how to handle Scorpio men.
If you’re not sure how to do this, Scorpio Man Secrets is a powerful resource for Scorpio lovin’ women.
It’s better to balance keeping yourself busy enough with staying communicative and open to the Scorpio.
Make him work to know you
Want to spill everything to the Scorpio man the first time he sets his hypnotic gaze on you?
Yes, that’s a common reaction.
Still, you should hold onto some of that information if you want his obsession for you.
His goal is to analyze you completely and “figure you out.”
So throwing up some roadblocks can slow the pace in an insanely intriguing way for him.
Not by lying or being deliberately evasive, but just by keeping the real meat of the story to yourself.
Match his passion in bed
Sex is incredibly important to Scorpios.
Scorpio men tend to have high libidos, but sex is much more than a physical pursuit for them.
It’s also an emotional release.
Sex should not be emotionless with a Scorpio man.
Becoming passionate with him is a must if he’s going to consider you his match.
If you want more tips on this subject, check out How to Sexually Please a Scorpio Man.
Make him feel like he’s more interested than you are
If you really want to drive a Scorpion crazy, don’t let on just how much you’re into him.
Giving all your cards away like this leaves little for the Scorpio man to explore.
He might be afraid you’ll cling to him, but the truth is that Scorpio men are really attracted to a woman who is just outside of what’s attainable for them.
So keep the ball in your court.
Give him enough to show that you’re interested in him, but don’t gush.
If you follow the other rules in this article, you should be well on your way to nailing this tip.
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How to make a Scorpio man chase you
You’ll need to walk a line between being sexy and innocent.
A hint of innocence in your attitude intrigues the Scorpion, possibly because it makes you seem more honest and genuine, characteristics he likes in a woman.
Or maybe it’s just too alluring for the darker-natured Scorpio male.
If you want the full run-down, you can check How to Get a Scorpio Man to Chase You.
What attracts a Scorpio man physically?
When it comes to physical attraction, Scorpio men follow the beat of their own drum.
That is, you won’t find two Scorpio men in the same room who like exactly the same thing.
And yet, it’s a commonality among Scorpios to be attracted to tasteful sexiness in a woman’s appearance, at least in public.
Playing to something distinctly feminine about you is also a good way to catch his eye.
Check out more in How to Attract a Scorpio Man.
What to say to a Scorpio man to turn him on
Saying things that put him in a position of dominance turn on a Scorpio man.
Things like, “Do whatever you want with me.”
Or start asking him to give you permission to do things so he gets into the role of giving commands for you to follow.
That type of stuff is seriously sexy to Scorpio men.
How to make a Scorpio man jealous
While it’s debatable whether you should even try, you can make a Scorpio guy jealous if you start taking things too far acting like you’re not really interested.
However, his jealousy will likely be short-lived.
Any attention you give to other men will also set him off if he’s “claimed” you.
How to play a Scorpio man at his own game
As stated above, it’s dangerous to try to play the Scorpio man’s game with the angle of outsmarting him.
But if you’re simply trying to play by the rules in his book, it’s good to follow his lead.
He likes to be the dominant figure in the relationship and will want you to be submissive, yet not spineless.
So letting the Scorpio have the control the majority of the time but letting him know that he can’t boss you around for real or disrespect you is how to play his game.
How do you know if a Scorpio man really loves you?
If a Scorpio man loves you, he will drop the hot/cold games.
An evolved Scorpion in love will be there for you and he won’t disappear on you without an apology after.
He’s communicative and protective of you.
Also, you can just feel it and see it from the way he looks at you and touches you softly, yet firmly, like he never wants to let you go.
Read How Do You Know When a Scorpio Man Is Falling in Love With You for more details.
How to make a Scorpio man fall in love with you
If you want a Scorpio man to fall deeply and passionately in love with you, you have to make the emotional connection with him.
It’s an unspoken understanding between each other that he craves.
A spiritual tether that feels physical, it’s so powerful.
Making this happen is only possible if you let go.
Don’t try to control the Scorpio man or the situation.
Let yourself be open completely when you feel him falling for you.
How to Get a Scorpio Man to Fall in Love With You explains in full.
How do you know if a Scorpio man misses you?
When the Scorpio man misses you, he lets you know by reaching out to you.
He won’t be able to stop himself from talking to you.
If you haven’t talked to a Scorpio guy for months and he texts you out of the blue, you never really left his thoughts.
If you’re not sure how to get a Scorpio man to fall in love with you, read Scorpio Man Secrets.
This guide tells you everything you need to know to attract, keep and marry a Scorpion.