We get it—Scorpio men are dead sexy.
Here’s how to attract a Scorpio man if you want one of your own:
- Show him you have layers he wants to peel back
- Be honest and up front, but don’t give away everything
- Be somewhat of a loner sometimes
- Play his Scorpio power games smartly
- Show that you’re smart and unique
A word of warning: Scorpio men all too easily separate sex from emotion.
So if you want a meaningful relationship with both the mind-blowing sex and the Scorpio’s passionate love, learn how to read him with an expert-written guide like Scorpio Man Secrets.
Click the link above to dive in now, or learn the art of Scorpio seduction below.
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How to Attract a Scorpio Man
1. Demonstrate that there’s more to you than meets the eye
The Scorpio man is constantly studying people.
He likes to imagine himself as the best psychoanalyst and bull$&*! detector in the world.
If he can figure you out in a second, he’s bored.
There have to be layers to you for him to take a physical interest.
You can get him interested just by doing something like writing in a journal while you’re on the bus.
Or reading a book.
However, sometimes it’s not easy to put your layers on public display like that.
If that’s the case, don’t sweat it.
When you’re talking to a Scorpio man, briefly allude to your various interests.
Create some curiosity for him to explore and ponder.
It’s like a game to him. A sexy game of the intellect.
2. Keep some things to yourself
In the same vein of creating some mystery for a Scorpio man, do hold back a bit when you talk to one.
Don’t tell him absolutely everything about yourself, even if you want to.
And believe me, you’re going to want to.
There’s something about the way a Scorpio looks at you that makes you hypnotized.
Now, you do want to be honest and sincere with the Scorpio.
Don’t be too vague or he won’t trust you.
But try not to give in to his hypnotic energy completely!
It’s OK to set boundaries.
You can even state openly that you’re not going to tell him more right now.
Smile and wink.
3. Play the part of a loner
A Scorpio man is much more likely to approach you if he can get you alone.
Versus singling you out in the middle of a group of your friends.
The sexy, sexual Scorpio magic happens best when there’s a space of intimacy between you.
He knows this.
So let him have a chance to check you out and try to get to know you by breaking away from your friends at the bar and grabbing a drink on your own when that cute Scorpio man is nearby.
Sit by yourself at a cafe sipping your coffee.
Be confident on your own and set that Scorpion bait!
4. Be sexy, but not over the top
Scorpio is a sign that oozes sex appeal.
Scorpio men have an insatiable sexual appetite and are intensely drawn to sexy women.
However, they are not necessarily into an overt type of sexual energy.
It has to be a smoldering one, like a volcano underneath the surface.
Wearing form-fitting clothing with a little cleavage is better than opting for a barely-there dress just to grab attention.
Know that you’re sexy, because you are.
The Scorpio knows it, too.
5. Don’t see other men
If you’re Scorpio hunting, do so while you’re completely free in the dating department.
Scorpio men are very concerned with trust and power dynamics.
Power (having it, wielding it or losing it) is a vital subject for this sign—it’s just what Scorpios are here to explore.
If you are talking to a Scorpio man but also talking to other men, the Scorpio will be concerned about losing power to you.
And that will cause him to walk right out of your life and not look behind him.
So if you really want a Scorpio man to be attracted to you and also stay attracted, you’ll need to be ready to say goodbye to Tinder.
6. Don’t give away all your power
On the subject of Scorpios and power, you will want to show a Scorpio man that you’re a strong individual who has plenty of power herself.
Scorpios don’t want to be with someone who defaults to letting others take control of their lives.
At least, no mature, healthy Scorpio man will want that.
(If you’re talking to one who seems like he’s into that, run far away.)
Part of this is, yes, sexual power.
Giving in too quickly to sex and never making the Scorpio man wait can be destructive, so go ahead and build up that sexual tension.
Scorpio expert and Relationship Astrologer Anna Kovach can show you how to strike the necessary balance for a strong relationship in Scorpio Man Secrets.
7. Be honest with the Scorpio
Never, ever lie to a Scorpio!
Seriously, you will never get away with it.
Not only are Scorpios walking human lie detectors, but they are also the ultimate grudge holders.
If you lie to a Scorpio man, he will remember it forever and he will not trust you.
He will write you off before you can really get to know each other.
Sincerity is what makes him really attracted.
So be genuine with him and tell him the truth, or tell him you’re not ready to share something with him if that’s the case.
He’ll only want to get to know you more.
8. Be different
Scorpios tend to be attracted to people who aren’t like everyone else.
There should be something about you that’s unique that he can sense.
Unfortunately, it can be hard to pinpoint what that thing is about yourself from the Scorpio’s point of view.
Because putting on airs will just repel him.
However, that doesn’t mean you can’t embrace what makes you unique.
Don’t try to hide it.
If you are genuinely yourself and not trying to fit in with everyone around you, whatever is different and special about you will come forward to the Scorpio’s discerning eye.
9. Have deep conversations
Scorpio is one of those signs that relishes a one-on-one conversation.
Attraction for Scorpios is both in the body and in the mind.
He is magnetized to deep thinkers and wants to pick your brain.
Most definitely, having profound things to say is only going to ramp up his attraction to you.
So don’t feel like you need to play dumb.
Or like you should hold back.
Let your intelligence shine and say what you really think.
Don’t be nervous about exploring topics that you have a passion for because you think you’ll bore the Scorpio.
On the contrary, your passion is alluring to him.
This is all part of sharing the layers that the Scorpio is so interested in peeling back.
Other Scorpio Man Questions
How do you know if a Scorpio man likes you?
The famed Scorpio Stare.
If a Scorpio man has the hots for you and is interested, he’s going to stare pretty unabashedly.
There is something special about the way a Scorpio man looks at you that isn’t like anything you’ve ever experienced.
It’s a surefire sign.
As well, a Scorpio man who likes you will readily approach you and talk to you.
He may check you out from a distance at first (and stare), but then he will walk right up to you rather disarmingly and start asking you questions about yourself.
If you want to know more, check out How to Tell If a Scorpio Man Is Interested in You.
Are Scorpios bad at relationships?
Well, it depends on what you define as “bad at relationships.”
Scorpios often have explosive relationships with explosive endings, but that’s because of their sheer intensity.
Does that make them bad at relationships?
Of course not. But some people might feel burned.
Scorpios are also famous for getting hot and cold in a relationship and never letting you in on what’s going on.
The lack of communication can be more than a pain, but often it’s more about the Scorpio’s fears and hang-ups than anything else.
The good about Scorpios in relationships?
Undying loyalty and deeper passion than you have ever experienced.
Do Scorpios get attached easily?
Yep, they definitely can.
Scorpio men, when they meet someone they feel like they have an instant connection with, can get attached almost immediately.
Many times, Scorpio guys will end up coming on way too strong in these cases.
Which, strangely, women tend to end up swooning for.
It’s all part of the mysterious Scorpio magnetism.
How do you make a Scorpio man fall in love with you?
It’s hard to answer this question only because you can’t “make” a Scorpio man fall in love at all.
Manipulation tactics like jealousy inducement don’t do a thing.
Rather, letting the intensity of your relationship blossom is what makes him fall in love.
Being open and vulnerable just with your Scorpio man to signify your trust, loyalty and devotion becomes important.
Overall, allowing the deep emotional connection that he craves to take place and giving yourself over to that is necessary to help him dive in.
Find out more in How to Get a Scorpio Man to Fall in Love With You.
How does a Scorpio man act when he’s falling in love?
Our article How Do You Know When a Scorpio Man Is Falling in Love With You? explains this in depth, but a Scorpio man in love takes the role of protector.
Typically, he will even start to become somewhat possessive.
He may not ask you directly what you’re doing or who you’re hanging out with, but somehow he will know.
If he’s in love with you, a Scorpio man will be very intense about it.
And he will want to know that you feel the same way.
Even if he hasn’t said it yet, you’ll feel it radiating from his body when he’s near you.
And he’ll want to be physically close to you a lot.
Eventually, he will open up more and more to you.
Scorpio Man Secrets will teach you how to capture a Scorpio man’s interest and heart, which is not an easy feat.
It does so by teaching you how a Scorpio man thinks and how to react to him.