Need to know how to get a Scorpio man to commit, but afraid to push him too far?
It’s a delicate balance—here’s how to do it right:
- Show him you need him, but be able to stand on your own two feet
- Make your place a sanctuary for him
- Demonstrate your loyalty no matter what
- Build a unique emotional connection with him slowly
- Accept him completely
Your best defense against losing a Scorpio man if you’re worried is to learn how to read him like a book with a guide like Anna Kovach’s Scorpio Man Secrets.
Click the link above to get the guide, or learn how to make a Scorpio man want to commit to you below.
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How to Get a Scorpio Man to Commit
You can’t force a Scorpio man to do anything.
Everything he does is his idea. His true desire.
He does nothing just to please other people and he refuses to be manipulated or controlled.
So if you want to get him to commit to you, you’ll have to keep all of this in mind so that he feels that he’s always in control.
That’s the key to getting a Scorpio man to do anything, including commit.
Without further ado, let’s talk about what you should do (and not do).
Read next: How to Keep a Scorpio Man Interested
Be strong on your own
A Scorpio man needs a strong woman.
He wants a partner who is independent and can express how much she loves him while at the same time demonstrate that she’s capable of standing on her own two feet.
It’s a delicate balance between needing the Scorpio man and being needy.
If you want him to commit, keep your own life full—the life you lived before he came along.
Don’t drop interests and commitments to spend all your time with your Scorpion.
Besides, a Scorpio man is only interested in being with a woman who has a passion for something, or for many things.
Keep that going and the Scorpio man will be more comfortable committing.
Create a love nest
Scorpio men are similar to Taurus men in the way that they like an appealing, sensual environment.
But for the Scorpio man, it’s more about creating a space that’s cozy, homey and a place to get away from the world.
Decorate with pieces you bought together on trips that mean something to you both.
Make lots of home-cooked meals in the kitchen and create memories.
Get soft pillows and nice silk sheets in dark, sexy colors for the bed.
Make your place a sanctuary that the Scorpio man hates to leave.
And he won’t want to.
Don’t shy away from his intensity
One reason why Scorpio guys are less likely to commit than other signs is that they know they’re not the easiest to handle.
They’re incredibly intense people, and their intensity can be too much for a lot of women when turned on full volume.
A Scorpio man doesn’t want to put himself in that place.
He’s way too (secretly) sensitive for that.
If you can take the heat, he’ll be much more willing to commit.
Don’t clam up when he asks you personal questions.
Be open to talking about weird or taboo subjects.
Return his texts and phone calls promptly and don’t play hot and cold with him.
Be consistent, and be all in.
Demonstrate your loyalty
I can’t stress enough how important it is that you stay the course and prove to your Scorpio man that you’re true.
Loyalty ranks up at the top of his list and he will most definitely test you.
As it happens, this is where a lot of women go wrong with their Scorpio guys.
It’s hard to read a Scorpio man, and you need to be prepared to pass his tests.
Here’s the bottom line: Scorpio guys always expect your undying devotion, no matter what.
Never try to make him jealous to make him act.
Even if it seems like your Scorpio is pushing you away, there’s a good chance he’s gauging how you’ll react and whether you’ll stay loyal to him or give up.
If you really want him to commit, weather these storms with patience and wait for him on the other side.
Create a special connection with him
Scorpio men aren’t afraid to commit to someone per se.
Rather, Scorpios are afraid to commit to someone who isn’t THEE right person for them.
Even though it often feels like the Scorpio man has all the power in the relationship (and yes, he usually does), the connection you have must be mutual and powerful for both of you.
For one thing, you build this connection through knowledge of one another.
The woman a Scorpio man commits to will be someone he feels gets him like no other.
Likewise, he will understand her like no other.
It will be the two of you, you and your Scorpio man, against the world.
He wants to be Bonnie and Clyde.
He wants love and understanding so deep that you can say a thousand words without speaking.
If you want help with this, check out Anna Kovach’s in-depth love and dating guide Scorpio Man Secrets.
Never lie to him
This goes right along with demonstrating your loyalty.
Scorpios need to know that they can trust you completely.
They won’t tolerate any form of lying or hiding things from them.
If they find something out that you were trying to keep a secret, they’ll assume something much more sinister and start pulling away.
It’s best to be truthful with them even if it puts you in a vulnerable position.
A Scorpio man wants you to be vulnerable, anyway.
His modus operandi is to learn everything about you, including your strengths and weaknesses, so that you’re completely exposed, your soul laid bare before him.
Only then will he be satisfied to open up to you.
Accept him and be there for him
If you want a Scorpio man’s loyalty, you absolutely must accept him as he is without asking him to change.
Scorpio is a fixed sign—he’s not a very changeable person.
But also, a Scorpio man wants to be loved for who he is.
Flaws, darkness and all.
And Scorpio has a darkness that he’s not only aware of, but willing to embrace from time to time.
Go there to the dark spaces with him when he needs you to, holding hands.
Tell him how much you love him.
Don’t turn your back on him or ask for a different outcome when he’s going through a rough patch.
If you can love him unconditionally, he will find your relationship worthy of making it exclusive, committed and long-lasting.
Take things slow
Just because your relationship is intense doesn’t mean it has to move at breakneck speed.
It’s typical for Scorpio guys to get so wrapped up with a woman they’re into that they lose themselves momentarily.
And once they realize that, they tend to pull back.
Sometimes so hard that they end up having to take a big break, if only to regain their balance and control.
In the interest of preventing this, keep an even pace.
Don’t spend all of your time together and be sure to take healthy time apart to live your own lives.
Avoid placing time tables or pressure on the relationship and let things unfold.
You want to build your Scorpio man’s confidence slowly and carefully so that he doesn’t second-guess himself.
Other Scorpio Man Questions
How do you make a Scorpio man obsessed with you?
A Scorpio man gets obsessed over a woman who’s just out of his reach.
More than this, she must be incredibly interesting to him—she should be unique and mysterious.
She must be a passionate woman he needs to put the work in to get to know better.
Read How to Make a Scorpio Man Obsessed With You to learn how it’s done.
Signs a Scorpio man is playing you
Many times, a Scorpio man who continues to keep you a secret is playing you.
There may be a time when you first start dating where he doesn’t want to announce it to the world, but if he’s unwilling to take you out on dates in public or let you meet anyone close to him, be wary.
Particularly if you can never reach him on his cellphone when he’s not with you, as if he disappears off the face of the earth.
He could have another lady already.
Signs a Scorpio man is in love with you
If a Scorpio man has feelings for you, he will want to be physically near you as much as possible.
He’ll keep in touch with you regularly and spend his time with you.
Even though he’s not big on opening up, he’ll share things with you that he doesn’t tell other people.
Get all the signs in How Do You Know When a Scorpio Man Is Falling in Love With You?
How to make a Scorpio man chase you
If you want to inspire the Scorpio man to chase you, be worthy of the hunt.
Let him take the lead and act a little innocent. It needs to be his idea.
You’ll need to be able to both show him who you really are inside and also leave enough mystery for him to want to figure you out.
How to Get a Scorpio Man to Chase You explains how to do it.
How to make a Scorpio man fall in love with you
Number one, understand him completely.
Share secrets and build a bond through knowing each other more intimately than anyone in the world.
Be passionate, loyal and compassionate.
And it’s hard, but try to let him say the “L” word first.
Find out more in How to Get a Scorpio Man to Fall in Love With You.
What is a Scorpio man’s weakness?
One of Scorpio’s greatest weaknesses is his distrust of everyone.
It can cost him his relationships if he’s not careful to stop pushing people away while expecting them to stay.
But Scorpio men are also very controlling, which can be tough.
They need a partner who is naturally submissive, if only to the Scorpio, while also establishing boundaries the Scorpio can never cross.
If you’re ready to take your relationship to the next stage, you need to get Scorpio Man Secrets.
It teaches you what a Scorpio man would never tell you but desperately needs you to know.