Why Taurus Man Doesn’t Initiate Contact (And How to Get Him To)

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Not sure why your Taurus man doesn’t initiate contact?

Still trying to get him to text you first or ask you out on a date?

Here are the top reasons why he isn’t taking the initiative:

  • He’s hyper focused on the task in front of him
  • He’s slow moving in courtship
  • He is trying to get you to contact him first
  • He’s just not sure about you yet

If he’s texting you back when you contact him, that’s a good sign you haven’t lost his interest.

But if you want to keep him interested, we highly recommend diving deep into his psyche with a guide like Relationship Astrologer Anna Kovach’s guide Taurus Man Secrets.

Click the link above to check it out. Otherwise, keep reading to find out why the Taurus man doesn’t initiate contact—and how to get him to.

Why Taurus Man Doesn’t Initiate Contact

The good news is, this is not necessarily any reason to panic.

If you’re worried because your Taurus man doesn’t initiate contact with you, let me tell you that Taurus men aren’t known as the best communicators.

But if he’s avoiding you, you need to know why.

You don’t want to overreact, but you also don’t want to miss something, right?

Below are the most common reasons why the Bull isn’t initiating contact like you wish he would.

Read Next: Will a Taurus Man Text You First?

1. He’s focused on the now

A Taurus man lives in the present.

When he’s focused on a work task or hanging out with his friends, he puts all of his focus and energy into that.

Not his phone.

This is something many women don’t really understand about the Taurus.

They assume he doesn’t like them or he’s playing games, when the truth is much simpler (and far less scary) than that.

To better understand, let me give you some context.

Taurus is an earth sign; he is of the physical world and the material plane. Which means he focuses on reality in front of him—the here and now.

Taurus is also the most sensory-oriented sign, so anything he can see, touch, smell or hear in his immediate environment grabs his full attention.

For example, if he’s at a bar with his buddies listening to a band play and drinking good beer, don’t expect it to pop into his head that he hasn’t texted you.

Unless you’re standing right in front of him, chances are, whatever is happening to him IRL is going to take precedence. 

And that doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you!

2. His world moves slower than yours

A Taurus man is not quick to make a move.

And a lot of that has to do with the fact that he’s living on a slower time scale than everyone else.

Taurus men feel there’s no reason to rush, especially when it comes to dating and relationships.

It doesn’t bother them not to talk to you for days on end.

You might be biting your nails off waiting for the Taurean to text you after a week has gone by, while he hasn’t even noticed it’s been that long.

This is another typical, and totally un-scary reason a Taurus man might not initiate contact.

Just don’t jump the gun and try to speed things along—that will make him nervous and pull away.

Best to let Taurus guys do their thing, even if it’s at a snail’s pace!

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3. A Taurus guy is a tease

This may shock you: Taurus men are shy.

I know, right? They seem so bold and confident.

And yet, they’re sensitive and courteous, and they hate the thought of imposing on a woman who doesn’t want anything to do with them.

So what will the Taurus male do?

He’ll hold off on contacting you to see what you’ll do.

He needs reassurance that you’re into him, and that he’s the only one you’re interested in.

He doesn’t want you to smother him, but it may take repeated efforts reaching out to him to prove you really like him.

That will give him more confidence to ask you out on a date.

Read Also: When a Taurus Man Chooses You

4. He’s assessing you

Now we’re getting into some more serious reasons a Taurus guy may not be calling.

So—you’ve had some heavy flirtations, maybe even some dates. But you’re still waiting for him to take the initiative weeks later.

If he responds to you and acts interested, then he may not be initiating contact because he’s busy sizing you up.

Taurus men don’t want to get into a relationship without first analyzing everything about you and whether he thinks you have real relationship potential.

So the Bull moves extra slowly and cautiously before he decides it’s worth investing his energy into.

As long as he’s still engaging with you and not ignoring you, you have nothing to really worry about.

You’re past the attraction phase, and entering into the “girlfriend material” phase.

Just keep being you, be honest with him and allow him to take all the time he needs to try to figure you out until he gets more comfortable.

He’ll start initiating contact more often when he feels more secure about what’s going on between you.

5. He has doubts

A Taurus man will lay off contacting you or never really start a conversation with you if he feels there are barriers to getting involved.

You see, a Taurus man doesn’t do casual dating—he wants a real relationship.

But he’s afraid of getting attached to you if he sees some big problems with getting together.

Maybe you have opposite work schedules and he thinks he’ll never get to see you.

If you’re dating other guys and he found out, that’s a surefire way to make him back off and not initiate contact with you.

If this is the case, then the Taurus man will not initiate a lot of things with you, not just texting or calling.

He also won’t initiate physical contact, cuddling or anything that feels intimate—although he may be willing to follow your lead if you do.

It’s a tricky situation to be in—you don’t want to be the only one reaching out to him, but you also don’t want to lose him.

If you’re feeling stuck, you can start taking steps now to reverse it and eventually win him over with Taurus Man Secrets.

How to Get a Taurus Guy to Text You First

Don’t overdo it contacting him

First and foremost, make sure you’re not sending the Taurus man multiple texts in a row.

If he’s not responding, he has a reason for it. And he doesn’t like being hounded.

More than any other sign, you must respect his space—especially if he’s purposely creating it to protect himself.

You can message him and then wait for a reply. If one doesn’t come, wait at least a few days before trying again.

It’s better to assume there’s no dark, nefarious reason he’s not getting back to you.

Remember, a Taurus man is slow-moving and methodical.

If he likes you, he’ll get back to you on his own time and keep your conversations going.

As your dates progress, he’ll start initiating contact more all on his own.

Make it clear that you’re interested

If you want a Taurus man to ask you out, or ask you for a second date, you need to make it clear that’s what you want.

The Taurus man is too polite to chase you if you don’t want him to.

And some signs, like Pisces and Cancer, will have to battle their shyness and nervousness to put themselves out there like he wants. 

But you have to show him you’re all about him.

One way to do this is to be willing to initiate contact with him for a time, until he’s gotten into a rhythm of communication with you.

Another way is to simply tell him.

Be direct.

You have nothing to lose, and in all honesty, he’d prefer to have a woman tell him outright that she’s into him.

No games, just an honest connection.

And by the way, letting your guard down first is a good way to get him to lower his (eventually).

Related Reading: Taurus Man Pisces Woman Problems

Show your sweet side

If you want to entice a Taurus man to text you first, be a sweetheart when you text him.

Be thoughtful and ask him how his day is going.

Remember his schedule and text him when there’s an important date coming up in his work or personal life to find out how it went.

Be nurturing toward him, and he’ll want to come around more.

You catch more flies with honey, and this is especially true with the Taurus man.

Focus on your own life

Are you obsessing a little too much?

Why not shift your focus toward your own goals instead?

A Taurus man likes a go-getter, an ambitious woman who puts her money where her mouth is and does the hard work to achieve her goals.

So while you’re waiting for him to contact you, grab the bull by the horns (not the Taurus, of course!) and invest in yourself.

Not only will you not be worrying so much whether he’s texting you, but you’ll also entice him all the more.

With a Taurus man, the key is to keep his interest—that’s way more important than whether he’s contacting you first. 

Read Also: Married Taurus Man in Love With Another Woman

Stay constant and reliable

Especially if the Taurus man doubts whether you can be together, you need to paint yourself as a reliable person to him.

Stability and dependability are very important to this grounded earth sign.

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If you appear wishy-washy or uncommitted, you probably won’t get much attention from him.

This is where things fall apart for many women—they don’t continue to put the effort in.

They move on, thinking that the Taurus man doesn’t care or isn’t paying attention.

But nothing could be further from the truth.

Again, don’t overdo it and remember to give him adequate space, but don’t drop off the face of the earth, because he’ll assume he was right all along and you don’t really care about him.

Prove you care about him by being steady and constant, and you’ll slowly start to see a change in his communication.

Taurus Men FAQ

Should you reach out to a Taurus man first?


A Taurus man loves it when you’re the first to break the ice.

Text him, call him, message him—just let him know you’re interested!

How do you know a Taurus man isn’t interested?

He won’t be rude to you, but he also won’t try to lead you on.

You know a Taurus man isn’t interested if he doesn’t ever contact you or interact with you at all.

If he ignores your messages or takes days to reply to each one, all the while refusing to pay attention to you IRL, he’s letting you know loud and clear that he’s not into you.

Do Taurus guys like to be chased?

Taurus guys like you to reach out to them first, but they don’t like to be chased.

They like to take the traditional masculine role and lead in the relationship.

So while they do enjoy it when a woman shows active interest in them, they still want to call the shots when it comes to courtship.

Which means, the Bull is going to be chasing you (slowly)—not the other way around.

If he’s not chasing you, you’re either expecting too much too fast, he’s not interested, or he sees trouble ahead.

Will a Taurus man come back after no contact?

Short answer, maybe.

If you go no contact and his feelings for you are still strong, he will not hesitate to come back to you.

That is, as long as he believes your relationship has a fighting chance.

Taurus man acts interested, then disappears

This is such a common situation women have with Tauruses.

If a Taurus man acts interested and disappears, he may be:

  • Testing your interest in him
  • Dealing with personal life issues right now
  • Offended by something you said or did and is pulling back a little
  • Taking things slowly as Taurus men do

If you give it some time and have an honest, direct conversation with him, the answer should become clear.

How long should you wait for a Taurus man?

That’s entirely up to you.

Just note, you may be waiting months—or years—for a Taurus man. It depends on the reason he’s taking so long.

Usually, if a Taurus man is into you and sees no problems with getting into a relationship, it’s slow going but shouldn’t take months and months for him to show an interest.

You do have to be patient.

But if you’re getting nowhere after months of waiting, you have to assess your happiness and decide if it’s really worth putting your dating life on hold for him to decide what to do.

If you want to get a Taurus man to stop being so reserved and chase you, we highly recommend Anna Kovach’s game-changing guide Taurus Man Secrets.

It has answers to questions you never even thought to ask and will open doors that no other woman has been allowed to access.

Check out Taurus Man Secrets here.

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