Does a Gemini man keep messing with your mind? Does he keep flip-flopping between being attentive and disappearing?
We’re going to talk about how to play a Gemini man at his own game so that it actually stops.
Here’s the quick answer: When a Gemini man does the disappearing act, your best option is to react in kind. That means you should stop paying attention to him.
Strangely, it’s actually the best way to get him knocking on your door. But as with all delicate matters like these, it’s not as simple as letting your phone ring every time he calls.
The goal is to show him that you’re not waiting around for him—and then end the cycle. Which is, admittedly, not the easiest thing to do with a smooth-talking Gemini man.
If your goal is to build a long-lasting relationship with your Gem, you need to know how to react to all of his behaviors, quirks and desires. That’s what you’ll learn in Relationship Astrologer Anna Kovach’s Gemini Man Secrets.
Check it out now or keep reading for tips on stopping the Gemini games.
If a Gemini Man Ignores You
Things were going great a week ago. Then he stopped calling and texting. Suddenly, it’s like he never existed. And this is not the first time it’s happened.
Does it feel like he’s toying with you? That’s not an uncommon feeling among the lovers (and exes) of some Gemini guys. Dating a Gemini man can feel like entering a game of chess, but it’s not fun trying to figure out what your best defense strategy is.
If you haven’t read Gemini Mind Games in Love, you may want to read that now to find out what other games your man is likely to play.
I think it should be stated that not everyone is going to have this experience dating Geminis. Every person is unique. But for those dealing with a Gemini man’s hot and cold behaviors, it can be beyond frustrating.
Let’s go through some of the reasons a Gem might ignore you:
- First, the simplest answer: He got distracted and is now paying attention to something else. OK, Geminis do suffer from short attention spans. But it’s no excuse to bail on you.
- He’s upset or has been hurt by you. Geminis are easily overwhelmed by strong feelings, including their own. To get over feeling hurt, they’ll often shut you out until they feel like they’re able to put the feeling away. Not necessarily what you want if your goal is to talk about it so you can try to fix it.
- He’s seeing other people. But ask yourself: How exclusive are you two? Did you just meet? If that’s the case, he might just be exercising his right to keep on flirting with other people until you two officially call yourselves an item. You might also look for signs that he isn’t planning on getting serious in my article How to Tell If a Gemini Man Is Playing You.
- He’s just being a Gemini. Frustrating, I know! But this is what they do. They test boundaries. They gauge your reactions. Often, it’s all part of their grand plan to figure out how compatible you are. Which is—again—still frustrating for you!
Although this isn’t an exhaustive list, it might give you a little insight into what’s going on in his brain.
But this won’t necessarily help you deal with the issue at hand: how to play a Gemini man at his own game. Or, the way I would suggest approaching it: how to get a Gemini to stop ignoring you.
There is one thing you can do (with some caveats): Ignore him back.
Read next: When a Gemini Is Done with You
What Happens When You Ignore a Gemini Man?
When you refuse to give your attention to a Gemini man, it’s like depriving him of air. Geminis live for interacting with and getting reactions from others (even negative attention is still attention to the Gemini).
By ignoring a Gemini who’s doing the whole back-and-forth thing with you, you’re simply giving him a taste of his own medicine. And it’s a bitter flavor going down.
It shows him that you’re not there to give him attention when he feels like it. Usually, the loss of your attention is going to be concerning enough for him to take action.
So what will he do?
Don’t be surprised if you suddenly hear from your Gemini, eager to get together as if nothing happened. Or he might call you up and tell you that you’re the one being weird, but he’ll reinitiate contact.
A word of caution: Don’t overdo it.
You want to convey that you’ve got other things to do in your life than wait for him, not make him feel like you’re messing with him. If you want to build a healthy relationship, continuously playing games is not the way.
That’s why I say it’s better to approach this as a matter of getting the Gemini to stop ignoring you randomly. You want to stop it in its tracks. You don’t want to start a cycle of tit-for-tat.
And if he seems like he’s not interested in doing anything BUT play games, don’t get trapped in it. Whether you’re seeing a Gemini or a guy of any other sign, never sideline your own needs for any reason. You deserve to be with someone who treats you with respect.
In all honesty, this is a pretty hefty subject that deserves more explanation than you’ll find in one article—even this one.
I would always suggest doing more investigating. Read Gemini Man Secrets if you’re looking for answers about a variety of mysterious Gemini guy behaviors, because let’s face it, this is not an easy sign to figure out.
How to Play a Gemini Man at His Own Game
Instead of looking at this as trying to beat him at his own game, I like to look at it as asserting your needs and boundaries.
You don’t want to come at it vengefully. You’re just trying to send a message to the Gemini that says you won’t stick around if he can’t be consistent.
Let’s get into it.
1. Hold off on contacting him for a bit.
I know. It’s hard to resist the temptation to text. Even if the Gemini texts back, the conversation could be pretty distant and not even end up with you two making plans to see each other.
Here’s my advice: Put the phone down! Let him be the one to get in touch with you. It may not happen for a few days, but if he has feelings for you, he will.
He’ll suddenly wonder why he hasn’t heard from you lately and make time to call you.
2. Live your life.
While you’re not calling and texting him, you’re not just going to be sitting around. Make plans. Do things that are going to make you happy, entertain you or help you make a step toward your goals.
For one thing, Geminis love an independent partner. They definitely don’t want someone to be clingy, and people who have nothing going on in their lives easily bore a Gemini who needs constant stimulus.
Plus, doing things just for you is fundamental to self love!
3. Look your best.
When your Gemini reaches out and says he wants to see you, it can’t hurt to put in a few extra minutes while you’re getting ready.
While mental stimulation is the primary mode of connection with this air sign, any kind of stimulation can help him focus. And you want him to focus on you.
Do realize that this is a minor thing. It won’t work if it’s the only thing you do to get a Gemini man to stop the hot and cold behavior. It’s more like the icing on the cake.
4. Don’t break your plans for him.
This will be easy if you’re keeping busy.
Don’t jump to rearrange your schedule for the Gemini. As an independent person, you need the freedom to do your own thing. And so does the Gemini, so he’ll appreciate this.
You’re simultaneously showing him that he’s got to be quicker about making plans with you (and keeping them) and that he doesn’t need to worry about losing his own independence in a relationship with you.
Remember, you’re not really trying to play games. You’re trying to establish what you will and won’t put up with in a relationship.
He can’t play games if you’re not playing, too.
If you want a comprehensive analysis of the Gemini man’s mind and advice on how to respond to everything he throws at you, check out Gemini Man Secrets.