How to Make a Gemini Man Want You Back (7 Rules to Getting Him Back)

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So you’ve been thinking about your Gemini ex-boyfriend. Do Gemini guys ever come back to their exes? In this article, we’re going to explore how to make a Gemini man want you back.

Does Gemini Man Come Back to an Ex?

The short answer is yes. If you’re pining for him after the breakup, you’re in luck. Gemini isn’t like Aries, Capricorn and Scorpio. With those signs, once the door shuts, it can be pretty darn hard to pry open again.

But Gemini is a mutable sign. If you’re new to the terminology, “mutable” energy basically allows the native of the sign to go with the flow. Mutable signs are changeable, and perhaps nobody demonstrates this as clearly as the Gemini. Ever witness him switch his whole argument mid-sentence? There you go.

It might be thanks to that mutable energy that the Gemini remains open to the idea of getting back together, at least before he officially moves on. How the relationship ended plays a part. If you cheated, he might not be inclined to jump back into dating. 

But if the breakup was amicable, or if you cut things off with him, it’s pretty possible that he’s still nursing deep feelings for you, and he might for quite a long time to come.

In fact, he might be thinking about rekindling the relationship and doesn’t know how to go about it without some help from you.

More on this subject as part of a practical and comprehensive guide to dating and marrying a Gemini man can be found in Gemini Man Secrets.

How to Make a Gemini Man Want You Back

Without further ado, let’s get into the list.

Here’s what you should do if you want your Gemini man to get back together with you.

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1. Make sure he has enough space.

Geminis just need freedom. If he felt like he wasn’t getting enough in the relationship, he’ll be hesitant to open himself back up to you. Similarly, if he feels pressured by you to start dating again, he might dig his heels in. 

To make sure this doesn’t happen, try to keep from contacting him too often. Communicate with him openly and honestly, yes, but don’t send him a dozen texts a day or ask him to hang out every weekend.

Coax him by allowing him to respond in his own time. If he doesn’t, then he’s either moved on or he’s waiting for a little more encouragement.

2. Be exciting.

Especially if things got a little routine in the relationship before it ended, show your Gemini ex that you’re up for adventure.

This can include saying “yes” to spontaneous activities (day or night), whether he asks you to join him or you invite him to come along. It can also mean picking up new hobbies that your ex never knew you would be interested in before.

It also means having interesting thoughts and stories to share. When you talk to your ex, you want to show him that you’re not as predictable as he may have thought. That’s going to get the gears turning. What else has he missed?

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3. Show him you’re different.

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It doesn’t have to be as deep as demonstrating that you’ve become a whole new person. If you feel like you have, that’s definitely something you can showcase. But trying a different look that conveys a new attitude can go a long way to getting the Gemini’s head to turn in your direction again.

If there’s something that he didn’t like in the relationship, do try to show him that it’s not going to be the same way again this time around. 

As in, if you were a bit clingy, demonstrate your self-sufficiency by having your own life prioritized. If he felt that you didn’t listen to him, take the time to really listen and interact with what he says when you go for coffee. Pique his interest by showing him how you’ve changed.

4. Make sure he knows you want to try again.

If he’s super motivated, he might just try to pursue you again on his own. But he may not have a clear pathway, or his mind might be in two camps at once: give things another go, or break it off for good.

When he’s got to know for sure that you want to be an item again, I would just suggest going about this delicately.

You can opt to tell him straight up, but after you’ve laid the groundwork and shown him how you’ve changed and what he’s been missing.

He may ask about it, in which case you should be honest and upfront about your desires. Honesty is the key word. Be transparent with him. He doesn’t want to play games.

5. Take everything in stride.

A Gemini man might test you if he knows you want him back. He might poke at you from time to time with comments he thinks will get a rise out of you. Or he might subject you to some darker moods.

Don’t jump to the conclusion that he’s trying to drive you away. It’s safest to assume that he’s just doing his thing, testing the waters and logging away your responses.

By no means should you let him go overboard. Call him out on his bull!$*# when necessary. But try not to be overly sensitive at the same time. He needs an emotionally resilient partner, one who can handle his mercurial nature. 

6. Keep emotions in check. 

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You may know this already, but he isn’t very good at responding to emotion. So presenting him with a seriously emotional display might not go down so well.

Tears may scare him and passionate declarations of undying love might be more than he can handle. Whatever you’re feeling, try to keep it on the cooler side when interacting with him.

That can be tough, I know. The last thing you want to do when talks with your ex are going well is dial back your feelings.

But trust me, you want to take the pressure off any way that you can. He doesn’t need a vial of your blood to wear. He just wants to ease into the flow with enough time to reflect on his own feelings in the process.

7. Don’t act like it’s the most important thing in the universe.

Maybe the number one rule here is to keep from seeming desperate to date him again. Neediness puts him off.

Keep your schedule pretty full and work him in around it. Don’t be at his beck and call, especially if he starts texting you late at night or back-to-back on the weekend. Remember, he’s changeable. He might be reminiscing and then change his mind after you’ve indulged him.

Keep your eye on the prize by making it a bit of a back-burner thing. He’s got to see that you’re your own person and you don’t need him. That will make him comfortable, and drive him crazy.


Need to know a lot more? Gemini Man Secrets is an impressive guide that dives deep into Gemini dating territory, answering questions about what to do if you think he’s talking to another woman and how to make sure he’s happy in the relationship. 

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