How Does a Cancer Man Flirt? (A Guide to Becoming Irresistible to Him)

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How does a Cancer man flirt? And how should you flirt back?

You need to know so you can make the right moves.

Here’s the important stuff:

  • He’s the perfect gentleman when he’s flirting
  • He’ll try to get the scoop on your personal life
  • You should be modest and sincere like he is when you flirt back
  • Doing little things for him makes him swoon
  • You can use his sensitivity to touch to crank up the heat

But for every step he takes forward, he’ll often take a half-step back until he really trusts you. 

If you end up stuck in limbo with your Cancer guy, you can learn all the steps to landing him (and keeping him) in Cancer Man Secrets.

Check it out or keep reading to see what astrology says about a Cancer man’s flirting style.

Is He Flirting or Just Being Nice? 

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Sometimes a Cancer man is flirting, but it’s so subtle you don’t recognize it.

At other times his niceness can be mistaken for flirting.

The truth is, Cancer men are selective in who they flirt with. 

Flirting for a Cancer man means that he has to open up to someone, which he reserves for only those he trusts.

Being vulnerable and putting himself “out there” is not something he takes lightly. So if he’s flirting with you, it means that he sees you as a potential partner.

He’ll be most comfortable when it’s somewhere private and just you two. He’ll be more confident and won’t be as self-conscious.

Now that you know when a Cancer man flirts, let’s look at how he flirts.

Read next: How to Make a Cancer Man Fall in Love with You

How Does a Cancer Man Flirt?

Cancer men are shy and mysterious. It’s not always easy to tell if he’s flirting with you or not, especially if you’re in the getting-to-know-him stages.

Even if he likes you, his flirting isn’t always direct, so you’ll have to read between the lines.

This is what to look for.

He’s sweet and attentive

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A Cancer man is a naturally well-mannered guy—he’s a gentleman. You can thank his favorite person (his mom) for that.

He’ll be attentive by getting rid of distractions like his phone or laptop. He’ll make eye contact with you and listen intently.

He wants you to know that you have his full attention and he cares what you have to say.

If you’re getting in the car, he’ll open the door for you. Conversations between you will be light-hearted and fun. 

Overall, he’ll want to make sure you’re comfortable and enjoying his company so that you’ll come back for more.

He makes jokes

If he’s making jokes, no matter how corny they are, he wants to make you laugh and find him interesting.

Cracking jokes is an easy way for him to open up (though not completely), and he doesn’t have to feel too awkward because he isn’t being serious.

It helps him to get a conversation started and, hopefully, figure out if you’re feeling him or not.

Cancer men are notoriously bashful, so if he’s turning up the laughs, it’s one sign he may be showing interest in you.

He gives you compliments

Does he remind you of how beautiful he thinks you are? Did he tell you how much he likes your new hair color?

The Cancer man likes to give compliments when he’s flirting. He swells up with pride making you feel good. 

He’s observant and will notice the little things that others may miss.  

In fact, it’s likely that he’s going to complement something unique about you.

Think of it as his way of telling you that he thinks you’re special.

He wants to be physically close to you

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This is a more direct flirting approach for this guy.

Your Cancer man is sensual. Touch is important to him.

Notice if when you’re talking he lightly touches your hand, or if you have something on your face he brushes it away.

He wants to feel close to the woman he desires and touching you achieves that.

He’ll ask personal questions

How does a Cancer man flirt, like, showing serious interest type flirting?

By trying to get you to open up to him.

If he’s asking about what goes on in your life, what you like to do and what you think about, bingo.

He wants to get to know you so he can understand how to interact with you better.

This is also a way for him to make an emotional connection with you. 

Plus, he’s 100 percent interested in what you have to say and what goes on in your life!

Put it this way: A Cancer is a deeply sincere person. This guy couldn’t fake interest in you if he tried.

So if he’s trying to get the scoop on your inner world, you’re pretty important to him.

How to Flirt Back with a Cancer Man

So now you know some secrets of how that sexy Cancer guy operates. Time to flirt back.

It’s not exactly the same as flirting with any other sign. To do it right, you’ve got to use a softer approach.

Otherwise you risk pushing him away.

Once you do get a first date, Cancer Man Secrets can tell you what you should do and what you should avoid doing to get him hooked on you.

Use touch

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You might think that responding to him touching your hand by stepping it up a notch would be the way to go.

Not so.

Keep it fairly innocent until you’re getting clear signals from him that he’s really ready.

He wants to enjoy the thrill of that stage where you both know you’re into each other but you haven’t made a move yet.

He also prefers to be the one to steer the progression of the relationship. That’s where he’s most comfortable and he will definitely turn on the romance when he’s made up his mind.

Mean what you say

This is super important: You don’t want to put on an act with a Cancer man.

You should only say things to him that you genuinely feel or think. That’s how he operates, and he’s intuitive enough to be able to tell if you do, too.

A Cancer man will be wary if he thinks you’re not being real with him. It’s a trust thing.

By the same token, if you’re sincere with him, he’ll be drawn to you. 

So: Skip the corny pickup lines! 

Feed his desire

No, literally!

Cook for him. Bring him a brownie from a batch you baked. Grab him a Starbucks on your way over (it should be something delicious like a pumpkin spice latte).

Try any of the following:

  • Make it nostalgic somehow. Invite him over for a dinner he grew up eating (and loved).
  • Get him a classy treat—something artisan or specialty in some way. Cancers have a taste for the finer things in life, even if they won’t usually buy them for themselves.
  • Bring him a meal, snack or dessert that he’s mentioned he loves.

You can do any of these in a casual sort of way to subtly let him know you’re trying to score points with him. 

You might leave his favorite brand of chocolate on his desk with a note that says, “Saw these at the supermarket and remembered you can’t go a day without them…”

If he knows you’ve been paying attention, that’s double points for you. 

Do him little favors 

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Top tip: Let a Cancer know you care if you want him to pursue you.

A brilliant way of going about this is by taking care of little things for him.

Help him out with a task. Make an extra coffee for him on your coffee break at work.

If you know he’s having trouble figuring out what to do about a situation, offer your advice—tell him you’d be happy to talk about it one on one. 

Whatever it is, offer it without him even having to ask. It’ll show him you’re paying special attention to him, which is the way to a Cancer man’s heart.

Send him a text that seems innocent…

Once you’ve gotten to a point where you’re pretty openly flirting, you can send a wink-wink text.

By that I mean you can say something to him that seems innocent on the surface but obviously shows you’ve got other things on your mind (like his hot bod).

Invite him over to watch a movie with just the two of you and mention how soft the blanket is that you’ll share with him.

That kind of thing.

Cancer men like it when you’re direct enough to give them an invitation, but you should also be coy. Let the hot and heavy stuff happen naturally.

Want more texting advice? Read How to Text a Cancer Man.

If you’re in it for the long haul, a guide like Cancer Man Secrets can help because Cancers are not going to give you any hints about how to succeed with them.

You either know it already or you don’t. Well, that’s where Cancer Man Secrets comes in.

Click here to check it out.

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