Need to know what to say to win over a Gemini man? He’s got the gift of gab, so you’ll need to come prepared. Here’s how to talk to a Gemini man.
How to Talk to a Gemini Man
1. Hook him in the first sentence
Because you’re battling against the Gemini’s short (really short) attention span, the clock is ticking the moment you open your mouth.
Sorry to put the pressure on!
The best way to make sure you’ve got his attention is to open with something that grabs his attention.
It could be a question that requires a descriptive answer, maybe a question about his opinions on a topical subject. You may also go a little bolder and make a strong statement about something to see his reaction.
Whether you’re telling him a joke or opening up the floor for him to take a topic and run with it, you’re doing it right.
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2. Listen to what he has to say
Geminis take communicating with others seriously. I don’t mean he’s serious when he communicates, because he usually isn’t.
Rather, it’s expressing himself verbally that is highly important to him.
So, you should be a good listener when he talks. He’ll notice if you’re not and will either ditch you or call you out on it.
3. Respond to him
To keep him interested and show him that you’re really interested in him, do more than listen. Be engaging.
A good active listener is the partner a Gemini man needs. He’s looking for someone to understand him, not just passively hear him.
Engage his mind by throwing the ball back when he tosses it to you. Keep asking him questions and sharing your views.
The only way to show him that you’re on the same wavelength is through the back-and-forth exchange he craves.
4. Start practicing your puns
Do you love puns or hate them? If you’re not a fan, start getting into them.
My Gemini ex found a way to turn an entire two-hour dinner into a pun fest about the meal he ordered made with goat. Think that’s a tough feat? Not for a Gemini.
Geminis are very clever, and their love of language combined with their natural playfulness makes them suckers for a good one liner, pun or breezy witticism.
He might just fall in love then and there if you can master the art of wordplay.
Or…at least try to appreciate his puns, because he’ll be making them.
5. Talk about intellectual stuff
Geminis are gifted with words, so they can talk about anything under the sun. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give them deeper topics to chew on.
They love an opportunity to flex the intellectual muscle, and to show it off.
Especially if it’s a trending subject in art, science, culture or philosophy, that’s sure to keep the conversation from running dry, something that the Gemini dreads.
6. State your opinions
Got a controversial opinion? The Gemini is the person to tell it to.
Geminis are not afraid to be controversial themselves, and indeed they usually are. They’re often doing it to get a rise out of people—that’s one way their playfulness comes out.
Throw it right back at them.
Even if it’s not controversial, your opinion is worthwhile to the Gemini man. He’s not interested in talking to someone who has no stake in anything.
7. Stand your ground
If you want to know how to talk to a Gemini man, you’ve got to know how to play the game with him.
When he rejects something you’ve said, don’t back away from it. He’ll respect you if you use logic not to defend your opinions, but to show him that *you know* they’re valid.
Geminis can easily overtake someone in a conversation because they’re so quick-minded. But what they really want is a partner who can keep him on his toes.
Go ahead and challenge him. It’ll make him think, which he loves to do. And who knows? You could very well give him a new perspective, which he’ll also love.
8. Keep the mood light
No matter what, try to steer the conversation in a more casual direction. Even while you’re debating, you want make sure that no feathers get ruffled.
Geminis can handle themselves well, but they do have a tipping point. To stay away from it, don’t push something that seems to be getting under their skin.
Sprinkle in some humor if need be.
9. Banter with him
Are you a big fan of good banter? Nobody is a bigger fan than the Gemini.
Banter is more than a way to pass the time for this man. It’s a linguistic art form that is as aesthetically pleasing to him as it is fundamental to getting to know you.
Keep up with the fast-moving Gemini and his friendly teases. The more on the ball you are, the more intriguing you’ll become.
How NOT to Talk to a Gemini Man
1. Stay silent through the conversation
This is a mood killer for sure. If you think you’re just being a good listener, you’ve only got half of the equation. The other half is to join in. He can keep any type of exchange going pretty masterfully, but he’s only human.
On that note, don’t dominate the conversation, either. A one-sided conversation won’t be any fun for him.
2. Tell him he talks too much
Talking is as vital to a Gemini’s existence as eating and breathing. It’s a process through which he expresses himself, understands the world and relates to others.
So when you say he’s too chatty, you’re basically saying that he shouldn’t do these things.
3. Act bored
This can be pretty offensive to a Gemini man. He prides himself in his ability to dazzle you with his wit, so if it’s painfully obvious that he’s failing, he’ll be majorly bummed.
And turned off.
4. Be a Negative Nancy
Geminis prefer the optimistic side of life. They don’t like to get stuck in dark moods, and even the darkest ones will quickly pass for the adaptable Gemini.
If you’re focusing on negativity, it’s going to threaten to drag him down. You’ll see him cut you off faster than you can say, “This sucks.”
5. Agree with everything he says
Even while you’re keeping things light and positive, your goal is not to say “Yes” and “You’re so right” to absolutely everything he says.
Sometimes he’s wrong. He knows that.
It’s a lot less fun for him if you don’t make the conversation energetic, you know?
6. Get hyper emotional
When talking about your feelings, it’s better to approach this man in a calm, rational way.
He’s easily overwhelmed by emotion, both his own and yours. So he’d really prefer that you keep the super emotional displays to a minimum.
7. Call him a liar
OK, here’s the thing. Geminis are famous truth benders. They have big imaginations that run away with them, so it can be hard to tell when they’re exaggerating or stating something just for effect.
But if you call him a straight-up liar, it’s going to make him feel like you’re questioning his morality. You can call him out in a lighter, jokier way.
8. Act like he’s stupid
This is going to earn you a one-way ticket to single town if you’re dating a Gemini man.
Geminis are notoriously brainy. They know it and they’re proud of it.
When you’re condescending to the point of belittling their intelligence, it’s a huge red flag to them.
If you’re looking for the key to get your Gemini to fall head over heels, astrologer Anna Kovach answers this (and many other questions about dating and keeping a Gemini) in Gemini Man Secrets.