Do you want to give things another go with your Aries ex? It’s possible to get him to want to try again with the right steps, being careful not to encroach on his personal space. Here’s how to get an Aries man back fast.
Will an Aries Man Come Back After a Break-Up?
Maybe things ended with your Aries man on an unclear note. Or worse, on a good one, and you’ve never gotten him out of your mind. A strong love is hard to let go of.
If you’re thinking that, it’s entirely possible that your Aries is, too. Does that surprise you?
With a tough exterior that doesn’t tend to betray his true feelings, he’s not exactly easy to read. Outside of the comfort of a relationship, he’s even less inclined to show how he feels.
If you broke up, he probably feels it was for a reason. Even if he cares for you deeply, he’ll be mulling over the cause of the breakup and working on healing.
As for how he’ll behave, you can read up on that in Aries Man Break Up.
If he’s hurting, it doesn’t mean he won’t be open to getting back together if he misses you and feels that it’s a truly beneficial option. So yes, he may come back if you play your cards right.
Be warned—if he wasn’t committed to you before, don’t expect him to return. Without feelings attached, he’ll move on quickly.
Only if there are lingering feelings is there a chance of succeeding in winning his romantic affection again.
Read next: How to Win Over an Aries Man
How to Get an Aries Man Back Fast
You may be able to get back with your Aries. But how fast are we talking here? It won’t be years, but it may not be days or even weeks. The Aries man cannot be pressured, or he will choose to protect his autonomy first.
If you want to play the long game, you can start by offering him your friendship and seeing where that goes. This strategy takes the pressure off and provides the opportunity to show him how you’ve changed for the better.
But that may not be your style. Otherwise, what you can do is speed up the process. You’ll convince him faster if you give him what he needs, which is space, and yes, some time.
If you’ve given him the picture that your intentions are to rekindle the relationship, his quick Aries mind is bound to be made up sooner rather than later.
Here’s what to do.
Make sure you give him that space he needs.
I can’t stress this enough: It’s crucial to give Aries men room to breathe after a breakup. To illustrate my point, let me tell you what happened when a friend of mine wanted to bring her Aries man back but didn’t give him enough space.
They were actually “on a break” at the time. They had agreed to give it three months and reassess at the end to see where they both were at. During that time, they were meant to do their own things, separately.
Knowing what I know now, I would have warned my friend that constantly complaining to him about the situation and trying to break him down was going to have a different effect on him than she intended.
Was it the reason that at the end of that three-month period he told her that he was going to pursue other women? We’ll never know that, but it was clear that he didn’t appreciate what he probably interpreted as her attempt at controlling him and the situation.
Lesson learned: If you really want to be with your Aries man again, don’t ignore his need to be alone, on his own at first. Trust that he’s taking the breakup seriously and give him time to miss what you had.
Be harder to reach than before.
Remember when you were at his beck and call? Not anymore. If you weren’t, keep that up. It’s time to make the Aries miss you and want you in his arms again.
By the way, if you want to know more about that, I talk about it in How to Make an Aries Man Miss You.
There are those men who prefer the chase to the meal served up to them, and Aries is one of them. He’s the Mars-driven adventurer, the conqueror. He’s got to get into that mind frame now.
If he hasn’t contacted you, don’t reach out to him until you’ve let things cool off for a bit.
If he does contact you, don’t respond immediately (but don’t wait too long, either!). You’re a busy person, right? Let him know that and return his call at the end of the workday or after you’ve finished whatever you’re doing.
Express your availability so that he knows you really do want to see him and work things out. Just don’t let his schedule usurp yours. He’ll respect that.
Be willing to listen and compromise.
Let’s say you’re meeting your Aries for the first time post-breakup. He knows you want to get back together and he’s telling you about what he wants, but also what he fears if you two are an item once again.
Try not to be defensive. It’s in your best interest to be patient and let the Aries know that you hear him and want to work on what he’s talking about. If you share his concerns, be honest and say so.
He’s a pretty good bull**** detector, and now’s not the time to try to convince him of something you don’t really believe in order to save the relationship. Rather, you want to show him that you’re willing to compromise and work hard at maintaining a healthy union.
Don’t endlessly rehash the past.
Remember my friend I was talking about? An important thing to understand about that anecdote is that Aries guys don’t want to relive what wasn’t working before if they’re going to move forward with you.
Emphasis on moving forward. Aries doesn’t get stuck in the past, nor does he want to. He’s more the type to live in the present, focusing his energies on this moment.
So, don’t make him relive the past. If he cares about you, he may not be abrupt or harsh with you when you bring it up. He’ll listen to you. But you won’t be convincing him. You may just be reminding him why you broke up in the first place.
Your best bet is to acknowledge what happened before but to set your sights on the present, and the future. That’s more constructive to the Aries, and more likely to make him feel optimistic about your future together.
Look good, of course.
Got something new and sexy in your closet? Wear it to your next rendezvous with your ex. Like any other flesh-and-blood man, he’s got a weakness for that.
Dress appropriately for the occasion (no need to bust out the thigh-highs and slinky red dress for a coffee date), but put effort into your appearance. Aries men like partners who take are of themselves and show it.
If you’re a very feminine gal, play to that appeal. They say that Aries guys are particularly susceptible to a feminine woman’s charms.
Get your hair done. You may even consider changing it up, too—Aries men are down for the new and exciting. You don’t have to go nuts, though. The object is to get him looking at you, which won’t be hard if he’s already attracted to you.
Now that you know more about how to get an Aries man back fast, you can put your plan into motion.
To get even deeper into the subject of keeping an Aries man’s heart forever, you might want to check out ultimate relationship guide Aries Man Secrets.