How to Get a Gemini Man to Commit (10 Things That Say You’re the One)

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Yes, Gemini men DO settle down at some point. If you want to know how to get a Gemini man to commit for good, the key is patience…and a few other steps that will help your chances.

When Will a Gemini Man Officially Commit?

While there’s no way to set your watch to it, with a Gemini man, it’s better not to expect him to pull the trigger soon. 

Especially given his natural indecisiveness, it will typically take him a longer time to decide to take the relationship to the next stage than you might consider average. 

Then again, I’ve seen more than one Gemini man propose, or at least come to a mutual decision with their significant other to get married, within as little as a year or two. This is not the norm, but it just goes to show that you can never predict a Gemini man’s next move.

man and woman walking hand in hand down a road in formal attire with a quote about having patience getting a gemini man to commit

The deal is that a Gemini will commit when he’s totally, 100 percent ready to. Once he’s had plenty of time to analyze every little detail and what-if scenario in his busy mind and decided that it’s a sure thing, and that it won’t hinder his personal goals and freedom.

Geminis are also just not that structured in their style. They like to live in the moment. If the moment eventually leads to walking down the aisle, they’d rather have a natural progression than feel like they’re on a schedule.

If you’re dreaming of an engagement ring, the key is P-A-T-I-E-N-C-E.

You can dig a lot deeper into what makes a Gemini man recognize that you’re the only one for him in Gemini Man Secrets.

How to Get a Gemini Man to Commit

1. Take the pressure off.

man twirling a woman as she smiles with a quote about showing a gemini man how amazing and unique you are

Let me tell you, it will spook your Gemini man if he suspects that you’re planning out his future. Geminis need to feel that they’re the ones controlling their destinies. 

Never give him an ultimatum!

Even though they take forever to make decisions, they need to know that the ones they do make are their own. They wouldn’t have it any other way. Otherwise, they’d feel manipulated and could back out of the relationship entirely.

How to get a Gemini man to commit? The most effective way is to leave it in his hands and keep showing him how amazing, fun and unique you are until he has no choice but to lock it down or let you go.

Read Next: How Does a Gemini Man Express Love?

2. Live in the moment with him.

If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em. If you know you can’t make him do anything, you might as well enjoy the here and now with him, right?

Geminis really appreciate this in their partners. It’s a breath of fresh air for them, and it goes hand-in-hand with taking the pressure off. You’ll also find that you worry less about the future and have more time to really enjoy your Gemini’s company.

He’ll pick up on that.

3. Maintain your freedom (and his).

When a Gemini commits to his partner, he isn’t giving up his freedom to keep living the way that he wants and doing what he enjoys doing. 

If you expect that he will become more of a homebody and start spending the vast majority of his free time with you, this is not the sign. He will be devoted to you, but he will expect that you respect his need to feel unconfined and trust his loyalty.

But he doesn’t expect you to give up your freedom, either. He wants you both to keep your independence, and he needs to be sure that this will happen if you two do become more serious.

Show him that you have the same desires throughout your relationship. It’ll give him assurance and confidence in a future together.

4. Keep surprising him.

woman and man sitting in a field laughing together with a quote about not letting a gemini man get bored

Ideally, a relationship will stay in that initial phase for the Gemini man in terms of getting to know each other and falling in love. He wants to keep learning about you and keep showing you new and interesting things.

Have a juicy tidbit or piece of knowledge to share with him on a regular basis. Or, be spontaneous so that he can’t always predict your moves. 

This will help your Gemini understand that things are not going to get boring. He’s got a short attention span and he never, ever wants to be bored.

5. Spice things up.

Whether you’re trying to reignite the romantic spark or the spark in the bedroom, it’s a good idea to keep things fresh and interesting.

Novelty is of great interest to Geminis. So is simply doing things a little differently on a Wednesday night without telling him in advance.

If the relationship is in danger of getting a bit stale, he may start wondering what else is out there for him.

Captivate him! All it takes is shaking things up here and there.

6. Keep things on an even keel.

A rocky, high-maintenance relationship is not the one for the Gemini man. He might stay in it for a time, but he won’t see it as sustainable.

Easy-going is what he wants. Drama-free, stress-free and joyful.

7. Don’t try to change him.

man smiling and leaning against a wall with a quote about geminis liking themselves for who they are

Defiance is in the Gemini’s astrological DNA. Tell him he can’t do something and he will just to prove you wrong. Try to force him to start doing things another way and he’ll wonder why it is you’re with him in the first place.

Geminis like themselves for who they are. They really want you to, too, but they’re also not likely to take it well if they feel like you’re trying to improve on them in a really overt way.

You can show them a better way of doing things and let them make up their own minds, and that’s about it.

But in his mind, asking him to change in some significant way could be like saying you don’t like him the way he is.

8. Say “Yes.”

Whatever last-minute adventure he wants to go on together, go for it (unless it’s something you really don’t want to do). Be open to new opportunities and new ideas.

If you really want to give your Gemini forever feelings, inspire his imagination with a “Yes” instead of a “No.”

The positive reinforcement is good for his psychological health and also demonstrates your flexibility in case he chooses to take a new job or spend the summer traveling with you.

9. Give him time to hang out with his friends.

Geminis are seriously social creatures. They cherish their friends and the time they spend with them.

If he wants to just go out with the guys alone, trust that he needs this. Recall that freedom is important to him. The woman who gives it to him and doesn’t question his motives is going to win his heart.

10. Cheer him on.

Geminis get some crazy ideas. They need someone who can cheer them on rather than poke holes in their plans.

Respond positively to his desire to go against the grain. When he gets interested in pursuing a hobby in a more serious way, be behind him all the way.

He really desires the encouragement not because he lacks confidence, but because he wants someone who shares everything with him, 50-50. 

The one who shares in his experiences, his hopes, his dreams, his ups and his downs with him is the one he will commit to.

Keeping a Gemini man happy does take patience, attention and understanding, but he will lavish on you whatever you give to him. 

Gemini Man Secrets explains how to make sure your relationship avoids the common pitfalls with Gemini men that can end the relationship.

Check out the guide here.

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