Aries men are often surprisingly emotional. If you’re searching for how to get an Aries man to forgive you, you’ve got the first step done—learning the best approach. Here’s what to do.
Can an Aries Man Forgive?
Yes, an Aries man can and likely will forgive you, provided you didn’t betray him in a very serious way.
The wonderful thing about Aries is that this sign is not one to hold grudges. Now, that doesn’t mean Aries people will let people walk all over them. In fact, the key is to use the right approach—you’ve got to know what type of response they’re looking for in the first place.
With the right approach, forgiveness may come rather quickly in comparison to signs that may need quite some time to process their emotions, like water signs.
In fact, there’s only been one instance in my life in which an Aries was so upset with me that I got cut off for good. I’ll get to that later.
Right now, if you want a little background on the Aries temperament and what to do after an argument, read my article called How to Deal with an Angry Aries Man.
I’ve learned some crucial steps to making sure an Aries who’s really hurt doesn’t decide that you’re not on their side after all.
Here’s how to get an Aries man to forgive you.
How to Get an Aries Man to Forgive You
Own up to your responsibility in what happened.
This is where I can tell you about what happened in my personal experience. It was actually with a close female Aries friend, and I think it illustrates the typical Aries reaction.
I told my Aries friend, who didn’t have a car at the time, that I would drive her to an appointment several hours away, several months away…you probably see where I’m going with this.
When the appointment was approaching, I realized I had certain obligations that conflicted schedule-wise. I asked her if I could take her part of the way and if she take a bus the rest of the way, which triggered a response that she should not have trusted me in the first place.
After a lengthy email in which she laid out her frustrations, I responded by apologizing, then defensively reacting, which overshadowed the apology. That was the end of the friendship.
As time passed and I reanalyzed the situation, I realized where I had royally screwed up. I never took responsibility.
The lesson: The best method of getting an Aries to forgive you is complete honesty.
Be brave and acknowledge your part in whatever has made it necessary to seek your Aries partner’s forgiveness in the first place. You’re not there to grovel and take all the blame if you don’t deserve it.
You’re showing your Aries that you care enough about him and that you’re strong enough to take ownership of your mistakes.
The alternative is to shy away from the subject and lose his respect. Aries men (and women) don’t feel that they need to expend any energy on people who try to skate by in life by charm, pity or manipulation. That may not be you, but make sure he knows it by taking responsibility up front.
Admit if you were wrong.
Taking responsibility is not always the same as saying that you were flat out wrong, if you were.
Aries men are very direct. They don’t like to beat around the bush, and after they’ve had a chance to calm down, they’ll admit that they were wrong if they feel that they were. So it’s not just you they expect that from, at least!
If you’re in a loving relationship with an Aries guy, he will not rub it in if you say that you were in the wrong. He’ll appreciate your candor and be all the more willing to let bygones be bygones.
But if he feels that you were wrong and you don’t think so, you’ll have to employ some logical reasoning. Stay calm when you discuss things, because if you get upset, then he’ll get upset again, too. Explain what your position is rationally but compassionately and lovingly.
Which leads to the next part…
Really listen to his side of the story.
He’s going to want to tell you his perspective on what occurred to upset him in the first place. When he does, be sure to show him that you are really paying attention to what he’s saying.
This includes eye contact and body language (don’t check your phone while he’s talking) as well as resisting the urge to interrupt him when he mentions something you disagree with. Log it away to come back to it when he’s finished.
But do know that he’ll want you to understand where he’s coming from. Rejection of his thoughts and perspectives will lead to another argument.
Take his feelings seriously.
After he’s shared his feelings, you don’t want to make the mistake of trying to smooth things over too quickly. You’ll need to take the time to assure him that you care for his happiness and that his emotions are justifiable.
In that story I told you about my Aries friend, you may have noticed that I did not take my own advice. Instead of focusing on acknowledging the validity of my friend’s very valid feelings, I got defensive. That’s not the road to forgiveness with an Aries.
An Aries will listen to what you have to say if you do the same for them.
Assure him that you’ll work on things, then prove it.
When you’re patching things up, it’s good to let the Aries know what your plan is to avoid a similar escalation of events. A real, legit plan is preferable to what sounds like empty promises of “I’ll try harder.”
He’ll know you’re serious when you explain in logical order how you see your future together.
Then all you have to do is stick by your words.
You see, Aries is a very action-oriented sign. That astrological fire that fuels his passion and action is what he responds to in others. Show him that you’re putting your money where your mouth is if he’s still having trouble fully forgiving you.
By doing exactly what you say, he’ll see that you’re truly willing to build the best relationship possible, which means far more than words ever could.
Got a specific question about dating Aries men? I’d check out Aries Man Secrets by dating-by-the-stars astrologer Anna Kovach. It’s a gold mine of tips and how-tos when it comes to relationships with Aries gentlemen.