Contrary to popular belief, it’s not impossible to keep an Aries man’s interest. If he’s wandered off, let me give you some tips on how to get an Aries man interested again.
When Aries Men Go from Hot to Cold
So here’s the cold hard truth. You are not going to have an Aries man at your beck and call.
The first sign of 12 in the zodiac wheel, he’s known in the astrology community as the baby of the zodiac, an only child with no siblings yet to contend for the spotlight. Put another way, he’s all for doing things by himself and for himself—he’s the OG of self-love and independence.
What that translates to is this: He’s a man you can’t easily wrap around your finger with a bit of charm. Not like Libra men—but speaking of Libras, I tend to see quite a few Libra woman and Aries man couples. But we’ll save that for another time…
I know it can be jarring when he’s hot-blooded one week and ghosting you the next. The reality is, the Aries mind is so quick and curious, it can get bored easily. Which is why you need to be ultra intriguing to him if you’ve lost his attention and you want to get it back.
What I’m trying to say is that you’ll need to take a different approach with Aries. You can’t just charm your way back in. And by no means should you throw yourself at him. That’s a sure way to lose his respect entirely, which means saying goodbye to him for good.
Nope, you’ve got to be tactful. Play your hand strategically. Demonstrate that you are the strong, independent counterpart he’s looking for.
Read next: Dating an Aries Man
How to Get an Aries Man Interested Again
I wouldn’t go so far as to say that there is one formula to gain the love and attention of every Aries man under the sun. That would be to neglect consideration for individuality, not to mention the individual birth chart, which will color every Aries (and every sign’s) personality.
That said, Aries people do share certain traits, some of which I outlined above, and these traits do determine quite a bit about who Aries wants and ends up with.
Play to these traits and you’ll have an in.
And if you want to get down to the nitty-gritty of an Aries man’s heart and mind, it’s worth reading zodiac dating expert Anna Kovach’s Aries Man Secrets.
From my personal experience and from what astrology has taught me, here’s how to get an Aries man interested again after he’s stopped calling.
1. Keep the Pressure Off
First thing you should know is that Aries guys don’t respond well to pressure when it comes to dating and relationships. You might be able to give some men an ultimatum, but you’ll be risking stepping on the Aries man’s love of independence if you give him one.
So instead of saying “Date me or lose me,” entice him by letting him have the freedom he so desires. Try not to dig into his schedule or demand too much of his time. Let him offer it of his own accord.
Now that begs the question, “How do I get him to want to spend time with me in the first place?”
Let’s answer that one next…
2. Do Your Own Thing
If I told you that you should focus on your own life instead of on the Aries to get his attention, would that sound backwards? Though you may be tempted to flag him down on Facebook or text him right out of the gate, don’t.
What he wants is a secure partner who lives a life outside of the Aries. An active life with goals and adventures and personal achievements.
So while you’re giving things time to simmer, work on making your own world as rich and rewarding for you as possible. It’s your way of playing hard to get, and believe me, Aries will chase someone who’s hard to get.
Then you can text him to see if he’s down for a casual hangout. And the best part is that you won’t need to pretend you’ve got a lot going on and that you’re not obsessing about him. Because it will be true.
3 .Try a New Look
Your first time seeing each other is going to make an impression on both of you. It’s not a bad idea to put some thought into what his physical impression of you is going to be.
He was into you before, right? So you know he finds you sexy. You’re just highlighting your appeal for him so that he remembers from the first time he sets eyes on you again how hot you are.
Here’s how to do it. Try something different.
Instead of rehashing a certain look, venture into a new world of style in some way. It doesn’t have to be drastic—even changing your makeup routine can be effective. Buy a new outfit. If you’re feeling brave, give a new hairstyle a go.
And yes, dress to impress.
4. Have Fun Together
When you do hang out, focus not on getting him back, but on the present moment. That’s where Aries lives, and it’s where he’d prefer you meet him.
Especially when he feels no emotional obligations, he’s there to relax and have a good time.
Your first meeting might be something uber casual like the park or a cafe. But be open to doing other things together as you reestablish a rapport.
Go to a local fair. Suggest checking out a new exhibit at the art museum if he’s into that. Whatever you do, have fun doing it and remember what I said about keeping the pressure off.
5. Pay Attention When He Speaks
At some point, you two are going to get involved in a conversation. (Tip: doing fun stuff together is a great way to stimulate conversation.)
He wants to know that you’re listening and not just waiting to talk. Show him that you are. Ask him questions to get him to expand on his thoughts. Share your own perspective.
If you’re focusing on what he’s saying, you can really dive in and explore some interesting avenues that he may not have thought of before. This is very sexy to the Aries. When his mind his stimulated, well, other things are stimulated, too…
6. Be Real
No matter what, you should keep it real with the Aries. Avoid trying to put on a certain persona or attitude for his benefit. He’ll see what you’re doing and think you’re disingenuous.
It’s easy to say that nobody likes fake people, but everyone has their own threshold for what they consider offensive. The Aries man’s is pretty stark.
Be yourself. Embrace your identity and let your Aries see you in candid moments. That’s where your personality can shine.
7. He Should Take Charge
Finally, some of the best advice I can give you is to let the Aries guy do the advancing. Pull the trigger too soon and, poof! He’ll do that disappearing act again.
Letting him take the lead is not only the best way to ensure that things develop in a healthy way, it also follows a natural pattern for the Aries. He’s born to lead. If you’re not one to struggle with relinquishing that role, it’s best to give it to the Aries.
That should get you started with reeling your Aries man back in. If you want to become a pro at reading him and master the art of dating an Aries, look into Aries Man Secrets.