If you’re going to date an Aries man, you’ve got to know how to deal with Aries man quirks. He’s magnetic and passionate, but he can also be impulsive and testy. The key is to understand how he operates.
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Dating an Aries Man
Aries people are dynamic, interesting people. Many are drawn to their energetic, fun-loving personalities, but many also find themselves unable to keep up.
A romantic affair with an Aries man can most frequently be described as a whirlwind romance. But those fast beginnings can lead to fast ends. Making it last may take a deeper understanding of your Aries.
Here’s the rundown on the Aries man personality to shed light on what’s motivating his actions and reactions. That’s the first step to learning how to deal with Aries man.
Aries Man Personality
If you’ve fallen for an Aries man, it may be because he’s full of life and fun to be around. He’s probably confident and boldly flirtatious with you, and he’s certainly not afraid to say what he means.
Aries men are often inspirational as they are quite fearless. Hyper-masculine and competitive, they’re also headstrong and fiercely independent, to the point where they can come across as real loners. Don’t take offense when they exclude you from their solo plans—they need to be free to do what they want to do, when they want to do it.
Ruled by Mars, the planet of passion, aggression and action, they want to be first in all things, and they usually are. They are pioneers, self-made individuals with seemingly boundless energy. When Aries says he’s going to do something, he doesn’t try. He achieves it.
In love, Aries men rush into things. They’re typically the ones to make the first move, and pretty early on. Before you have time to put your new dating plan into action, you could be in the midst of a steamy romance. That typifies how the Aries man works: Impatient and diving head-first into things, usually throwing caution to the wind.
The love of an Aries man is intense. He loves openly, sincerely, and playfully. He won’t try to hide it from you, but he probably won’t be the mushy type. He can be jealous, controlling and temperamental. In an altercation, he can push things too far.
But an Aries man never really means any harm. He’s passionate and his passions can run away with him, which is a gift as much as a burden.
Overall, Aries men are adventurous, determined, curious, playful creatures. They’re intense in their pursuits, and they know what they want. If that’s you, be prepared for lots of sporadic visits, heavy flirting and showing off in front of you.
Aries Man Communication Style
Blunt. The best word to describe the Aries man’s communication is blunt. Honest and direct, he suffers from foot-in-mouth disease, but he hopes that others will take his point-blank comments with a grain of salt. Especially when he says them in anger.
Aries men are also receptive to direct communication, as long as they don’t feel like they’re being challenged. If that’s the case, you’re going to get the Ram’s horns. In terms of expressing themselves, Aries men are often blessed with an articulate manner. They don’t hesitate and hedge their words, dampening their meaning.
It’s really the directness of Aries communication that will catch you off guard. The great thing about it is that you’ll always know where you stand with him. Even if he doesn’t say it on his own, if you ask him, he’ll tell you.
The challenging part is getting used to it. Not everyone is prepared to hear what Aries has to say, but he’s not mean-spirited. In fact, his direct style makes him equally ready to dish out the compliments. No filter.
What an Aries Man Needs in a Relationship
Aries is a strong personality. So, he needs a partner who is also strong. This is what he’s attracted to, but be warned—he may inadvertently take advantage of someone who is not as strong-willed as he is. It’s not what he intends, it’s just something that can happen while he’s charging ahead with his own goals and desires.
An Aries man needs a significant other who is adventurous. Someone who says “Yes” when he wants to go jet skiing or rock climbing. This type of person will be able to play with him and not hamper him when he needs to use up those huge energy reserves.
If you want to date an Aries man, you’ll need to recognize his need to maintain his independence. Aries needs someone who can be on his level and compliment his life rather than take it over. This is the way to get an Aries man to commit. Otherwise, he may come across as just playing the field.
Patience on his partner’s part is so important. So is open communication and mutual respect. Dating an Aries man will also require letting him take the reins, probably more often than not. He’s got to be the leader.
Ultimately, Aries men are just looking for someone who can keep up with them, keep their love of learning and new experiences alive, and of course, reassurance that they can depend on you 100 percent.
If you’re wondering if you’re “the one” for your Aries man, Anna Kovach explains that and a whole lot more about dating and being married to the Ram in Aries Man Secrets.
How to Deal with Aries Man
Now we come to the crux of the matter: How to deal with Aries man in everyday life.
This is going to be especially important to know if you’re looking at your Aries man as marriage material. Establishing certain relationship “rules” and knowing when to give your Aries space to be himself and do what he needs to do is vital.
Learn How to Communicate with Him
As I mentioned before, it’s in your best interest to keep an open and direct communication channel with your Aries lover.
Be honest with him. Don’t try to play around with him, keep things from him or put on a fake persona. He’ll sniff it out and run the other way.
In case you’re talking about sensitive things and the Aries is getting heated, try your best to stay cool. In fact, I have an article on this—How to Deal with an Angry Aries Man.
Communicate your feelings as calmly as possible and try to come from an angle of logic. It may take waiting until he’s feeling levelheaded again, but not letting your own emotions dominate is really the best way to ensure that his don’t, either.
Will that take work? Sure. But trust me, it’s worth it in the long run.
Because the Aries is the opposite of patient, you’ll need to be the one to bring this quality. If you’re patient by nature, perfect. If not, it will be necessary to practice in a relationship with an Aries.
The reason is that the Aries man often doesn’t realize that his impatience can have a negative effect. For example, as he impatiently rushes the relationship with the person he’s falling for. This can be exhilarating, but it can also put an expiration date on things. Especially considering that Aries men have a reputation for getting hot and heavy too quickly, then decide that the relationship isn’t for them all of a sudden.
Keep it slower-paced with the Aries for both your sakes. If he’s into you, he won’t let you slip through his fingers. And you’ll get to really know each other and see if it’s a good match.
Try to be patient when he’s upset and talking through his emotions, too. This goes hand-in-hand with doing your best to stay cool and collected. Just make sure that you let him say what he needs to say, in full.
Lastly, have patience for his lifestyle. Whatever that is, it’s what the Aries is committed to. Try to be part of it any way that you can. And he’ll invite you to.
This advice applies to your boundaries as well as his. Aries is going to have his own lines drawn in the sand in terms of what he will and won’t do. The same should apply to you.
If the Aries tries to overstep his bounds and cross one of your lines, put him back where he belongs (firmly but gently). A mature Aries will understand and respect them.
As the Aries, he’s likely to need his space. He’ll want to keep his independence that he so prizes. Not trying to whittle that away is one of the keys to a happy partnership with him.
I want to emphasize that it’s important to know your boundaries with an Aries and reaffirm them anytime you need to. Aries is a dominant man, and he’s inclined to get his way if he’s allowed to. But, remember that he responds to direct communication. Tell him right away when he’s doing something you’re not comfortable with.
He certainly won’t let you cross his boundaries. If you try, you’ll get iced out. In this way, Aries can be a bit hypocritical. But he’s not unreasonable, and he’ll understand that he can’t ask you to forget your own needs when you remind him.
Stand Your Ground
Remember when I said that the Aries man will try to get his way? This may go for little things as well as big things.
Aries men can start to control things if you let them. Whether it’s getting you to work around his schedule or trying to correct you when you’re doing something that he does another way, many times, he can’t help himself. So it’s up to you to stay firm and just let him know that you’re doing what you do, when you want to do it.
At the same time, a mature Aries has no desire to control his partner. He wants an equal, someone who is as independent as he is. This is a partner he respects and will be more likely to want to commit to.
So really, standing your ground is part of the way that you show your Aries that you’re long-term relationship material. Don’t get me wrong, some Aries men might be happy to tell a partner what to do. But that may not be the kind of relationship you want.
This goes for conversations, too. The Aries man is going to be super opinionated—it’s OK for you to be, too. As a matter of fact, he loves an opinionated partner. Don’t give in to his ideas and beliefs just to win his affection. And if you can convince him that your ideas have merit, too, whoa. That’s true love potential right there.
You can learn all about what it’s like to be in a relationship with an Aries man in Aries Man Secrets.