Scorpio guy keeps letting your calls go to voicemail?
Here’s how to deal with a Scorpio man ignoring you:
- Say you’re sorry if you offended him
- But don’t take all the blame just to win back the Scorpio
- Give him space first, then reach out
- Avoid texting about serious subjects
- Make sure he feels you understand him fully
If you want to stop making mistakes with your Scorpio man and save your relationship, learn how he thinks with a guide like Relationship Astrologer Anna Kovach’s Scorpio Man Secrets.
Click the link above and dive in now, or read on to learn how you should react to a Scorp giving you the cold shoulder.
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How to Deal With a Scorpio Man Ignoring You
First of all, you should probably try to get some idea of why the Scorpio guy is giving you the silent treatment.
If you don’t have a clue, you can get some ideas in Why Does a Scorpio Man Ignore You?
If you offended the Scorpio man, the degree of the crime and your timing play huge roles in making him talk to you again.
In all honesty, Scorpio men don’t forgive easily, and they never forget.
Even if you did absolutely nothing wrong, Scorpio men still respond well to the following steps to get them to warm up to you again.
Here’s what you should do.
Read next: How to Make a Scorpio Man Obsessed With You
If you hurt him, own up and apologize
If you know you were in the wrong and offended your Scorpio, it’s best to be frank about it.
Own it, admit it and offer a sincere apology to the Scorpio man.
Since he’s ignoring you at the moment, you’ll probably need to settle for doing this over email, by leaving a voicemail or if you have to, text.
Scorpios will never forgive you if you don’t take this step.
Even if they make you wait after you apologize, don’t think that saying you’re sorry was wasted.
If you try to pretend like you don’t know what you did or worse, you try to hide what you did from the Scorpio, he will make you pay for it.
Some way, somehow, he’ll find a way to put you in your place.
If you want to do your best to avoid the Scorpio’s stinger and start the process of making amends, always be honest about your wrongdoings up front.
Don’t take unnecessary blame
At the same time, you should never shovel all the blame onto yourself when it’s not warranted.
It takes two to tango, and arguments are often fueled by two people in their own ways.
Besides this, you must understand the relationship between Scorpio men and power.
To Scorpios, absolutely everything you do is an exchange of power.
They seek to retain power in any situation and never let someone else dominate them.
As well, someone who is easily dominated will lose respect from the Scorpio, and at worst the Scorpio will start playing games with them.
The balance of power should never be shifted entirely to the Scorpio in a way that makes you appear weaker and controllable.
Meaning, don’t grovel or say it’s all your fault when it’s not!
At the same time, you should never try to alleviate blame by making excuses because that’s insincere and weak to the Scorpio.
Let him know you care
When you’re dealing with a Scorpio man ignoring you, it’s good to gently persuade him by putting the ball in his court.
Let him know you care and that you’re around if he wants to chat.
This does a few things.
It tells the Scorpio that you really do want him in your life, which is of high importance to him.
Even while he’s ignoring you, the Scorpio man expects your devotion to him.
By sending the message that you’ll be there when he’s ready, you also allow him to come to you on his terms.
This gives him the comfort of control.
Lastly, it gives him space, which is the next thing he’ll need from you if he’s going to stop ignoring you.
We’ll talk about that next.
Let him have his space
Scorpio men are drifters and loners on the planet in a cosmic sense.
They long for someone to merge souls with, so to speak, in a loving and trusting relationship.
And yet Scorpio men struggle to give themselves to another person because it opens them up to pain and possible betrayal.
More than other signs, they require a ton of space to balance their mental health.
Giving the Scorpio man space gives him the chance to really consider how he feels about whatever the situation is that’s causing him to pull away from you.
Furthermore, it allows him to be himself.
You must not underestimate the importance of accepting a Scorpio man as he is if you want to be with him.
Embrace his need for space while he’s ignoring you and work toward your own happiness.
This can help to motivate a Scorpio man to want to call a truce, once you’re not actively seeking his attention.
If the Scorpio man doesn’t contact you, you can reach out to him.
Sometimes reaching out is all he needs to get the conversation going again since he’s so stubborn he can’t allow himself to do it on his own.
Making your first call or text to him about him and not the past is the best way to go.
That is, ask how he’s doing.
Let him start there. The pressure will be low and that can be encouraging.
Try to talk on the phone or in person
If the Scorpio man has pulled away from you for personal reasons, letting him hear your voice or, better yet, see your face has much more impact on him than texting.
It gives him a physical reminder of what he’s been missing and makes him want to be near you.
Aside from this, if he’s open to talking about something serious, it’s much better to do it face-to-face or as close as you can get.
Over the phone is preferable to texting.
The reason is that texting can seem disingenuous and is actually pretty cumbersome when hashing out an entire history.
Scorpios connect better with you in real life.
In fact, trying to text about serious subjects can irritate a Scorpio man and put him on the defensive automatically.
Not to mention the fact that it’s much easier to get a straight answer out of a Scorpio man when you can look him in the eyes and talk in a direct way.
Whenever possible, give the conversation the stage it deserves.
Let him talk
Hearing the Scorpio’s side is imperative if you want a Scorpio man to invest his time and emotions into you.
Not only do you want to listen to the Scorpio man, you want to really hear him.
The truth is, he doesn’t simply want you to understand the situation.
He wants you to take what he says to heart and understand him.
Only then can you create the special connection that he needs to feel the desire to see you and talk to you.
Demonstrate empathy and verbally acknowledge him.
Even if you don’t agree, showing that you can sympathize with him is a big advantage for you in terms of earning his trust.
Keep your explanations shorter
This applies if you’ve had something to apologize for.
The same way taking blame you don’t deserve can put you in a weak position, over-explaining can get you into trouble.
Sometimes, the more wordy you get with a Scorpio man, the more suspicious he can become in case it comes across like you’re covering for something.
The Scorpio is a psychology buff, and he figures that people who lie and try to obscure the truth can get nervous and say too much.
Which is not what you’re trying to do—but it can seem that way.
But also, saving your breath for when it really counts puts you in a more confident position.
In other words, it affords you the power you need to make the Scorpio respect you.
Don’t bug him
If you haven’t heard from your Scorpio despite your efforts, you should limit the number of times you reach out to him.
It’s best to go back to the rule about giving him space and continue to do that until he’s ready to come around.
Live your life.
And be prepared for the possibility that the Scorpio might not ever come around.
It’s tough, but depending on how bad the situation is, the Scorpio may decide to cut you out of his life entirely.
Hopefully, if you have a solid relationship with a strong element of trust, this won’t happen.
But if it does, there is little you can do to get the Scorpio man back in terms of begging, pleading or nudging.
This is why it’s vitally important to understand a Scorpio man completely, which will give you your best chance.
If you’re not sure where to start, follow Anna Kovach’s advice in Scorpio Man Secrets.
Other Scorpio Man Questions
How do you know if a Scorpio man misses you?
If he’s ignoring you out of anger but that anger is cooling and he’s starting to miss you, he’ll probably resume tab-keeping on you.
That is, he’ll start checking in on your whereabouts and finding out how you’re spending your days, whether through social media or other means.
Eventually, he’ll call you or text you and see how you’re doing.
That is the best indication that a Scorpio man misses you, pretty badly.
How do you make a Scorpio man miss you?
First, giving him space is vital if you want a Scorpio man to start missing you.
Beyond that, get his eyes on you either through social media (don’t go silent―keep posting pictures of the amazing things you’re doing and all the fun you’re having) or in person.
If he runs into you after not seeing you a while, he may start to get nostalgic.
But you can’t force it!
If you push a Scorpio guy and come across as attention-seeking, he’ll likely go the other way.
What hurts a Scorpio the most
Scorpio does not get over betrayal like many of the zodiac signs can, eventually.
It stays with them for the rest of their lives.
Forgiveness depends on the extent of the betrayal, but it’s unusual for a Scorpio to let it go entirely if it made them feel vulnerable, lied to or cheated.
Speaking of which, cheating is considered a breach of trust beyond forgiveness.
But it’s not the only thing.
Since Scorpio men live inside their emotions and their own minds, betraying their emotions can send them over the edge.
Whatever is important to your Scorpio man, he will likely tell you in terms of lines you should never cross, if things are getting serious.
Do Scorpios forget their exes?
Scorpios really don’t forget an old flame.
Whether they ever speak to one again is another story.
But someone whom they once loved will stay in their minds and locked away somewhere deep in their hearts forever.
If you’re in a relationship with a Scorpio man, however, this is not necessarily cause of concern.
As long as he isn’t still keeping in touch with his ex, you have to accept it as part of how the Scorpio man is built.
If he loves you, he loves you.
Do Scorpios get attached easily?
They certainly can.
But Scorpio men only get attached quickly when they’ve met someone they think is truly their match.
They do not get attached to the first person who flirts with them, that’s for sure.
But if you feel that a Scorpio man is obsessing over you, he probably started feeling those feelings for you before he even approached you.
If you want to understand a Scorpio man completely, you need an in-depth guide like Scorpio Man Secrets.
This is the guide that will tell you what you need to know to earn a Scorpio guy’s love and affection, and keep it.